outonalimb

For cripes sake...

I've gone no contact with my exah for about 5 weeks now.

It's been wonderful. I've been going to meetings, reading some great al anon literature and just taking care of me and our son.

What a relief its been.

Tonight, I chose to attend my former step-daughter's HS graduation ceremony. I've know her since she was 2. I was her step mom for years and I'm still a part of her life.

So I went...

And even though I only had a little contact with him, it all came flooding back.

He sends me a text and tells me to call him at 6.
Whatever...
I don't call because I don't have contact now.
So he shows up 45 minutes late...
he smells like alcohol.
he's all huffy and puffy that it was "MY" fault he arrived late.
Tried putting his hands all over me.
Gross.
Got out of there as fast as I could.
He calls my cell just as soon as I pull out of there...
He's ranting because he needs gas money and he didn't have a chance to ask me.
Can't believe I didn't kiss him goodbye.

Ick.
Yuck.
Gross.
That's all I can say.
So glad I threw him out 5 weeks ago.
It was long overdue.
And seeing him tonight...and all the chaos he can stir up in just a short amount of time...really showed me I am on the right track.
No doubt about it.


I dunno...just feeling really good tonight. Kinda free, ya know????

Mary

LexieCat

Kewl! Good job detaching!

I bet it meant a lot to your former stepdaughter that you were there for her.

Impurrfect

(((Mary))) - sounds like you definitely made the right choice. Sorry he couldn't be sober for the graduation, and acted like a jerk, but proud of you for the way you handled it.

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

barb dwyer

Yay for you!

These confirmations that we chose correctly
are great aren't they?

StarCat

I'm glad you had a chance to be there for your former stepdaughter. I am sure that meant the world to her, especially since you're demonstrating that you're still there for her, regardless of your relationship with her father.
That has got to be great for her self-esteem, too.

As for the reminders... Oh yeah, I can relate. I thought it would be difficult to stand my ground should I ever run into XABF again, but the times he's shown up has only solidified that I did the right thing.
I can't believe they don't realize how foolish they look with their behavior, but that's really how powerful the alcohol is, isn't it? It warps their mind so they only see what they want to see (or else just helps them pretend that's how they see things).