joey8262

personally, I take good advice from fellow members-and the ones who want to spout crap at me and blame me for my own downfall (thankfully not many on here) can go to hell as far as i'm concerned-i know this might sound like a brutal attitude but at the end of the day we're all here to help each other throught hard and difficult-not to tell each other off and score points over one another-that's PLAYGROUND STUFF-and i don't know the ages of various members-but I left the playground a LONG time ago-I have no time for games-i have enough to deal with-the same as the majority of us on here-remember one thing-we all have a common goal and bitching and backbiting isn't going to make things any easier to deal with.

Just my take on things and apologies if I've upset anyone-BUT, if I have then excuse me if I don't lose any sleep over it-selfish or not but I have to look after my rehabiltation and sobriety now-and anyone who wants to cast a shadow on that can go and take a running jump-the good POSITIVE PEOPLE on here FAR outweigh the negative people.

Aeryn

I was just thinking of this old thread today for some reason as I thought about boundaries....and I think the ignore function is a great way of setting boundaries especially when triggered. I've been getting triggered a lot lately (here at SR and at other places as well) as I'm knee deep in therapy regarding some stuff with my NPD mom...so I get triggered by anything even slightly controlling sounding, lecture-like or that makes me feel like there is a air of fakeness about it (disingenuous). These were all behaviors that stifled me in childhood that I'm slowly learning to accept and let go now with my mother but it's hard. Triggers are about me not others but one of the ways of dealing with them is this great ignore button.

I have no idea how I even remembered this thread it just sort of popped up in my mind tonight. Anyhow thought I'd bump it in case it might help someone else.

Aeryn

WTH rather than make a new thread I'll re-bump this one.

Does anyone know if there is an Ignore Thread feature here at SR? If there isn't is there a way to request one?

Yurt

There is a a user ignore list; control panel, edit user ignore list.
Did not find a thread ignore list.

Aeryn

Yeah me either...I go to another board that has both Ignore User and thread....maybe we can make a techie request for next time they update. I think that feature would be great here.

cynical one

Ignore thread option, that would be a great feature.


Also wondering if anyone knows what happened to sailorjohn? He was stationed in the Middle East and then just stopped posting.

Aeryn

I remember him and the OP (Cyranoak) of this thread - miss them both! I also miss Tuffgirl, StarCat and GettingBy...all part of my original "class" here shall we say. I posted here a long time ago under a different name and had to change things for privacy reasons...they all were a bit faster than me in recovery but I've now just finally got there! It's probably one of those things where you always miss those you took the original journey with.

fluffyflea

I don,t know anything about the ignore button. I've developed the art of skimming over a post and if it,s something I might be able to be helpful with great, if it's out my line of knowledge then I just don't get on it.

I've also developed this skill in real life.

Just don't need to be in every conversation.

Aeryn

I sort of do the skim technique Earthworm...if the post is long and lecturing I read the first two sentences and then I'm over it...lectures usually don't suit me at this point in my recovery as they feel too controlling to me.

However when a thread gets bumped over and over and over again it's hard to ignore it and it really just gets annoying when it's a bunch of bickering, playground type stuff...I successfully ignore them but it's sort of like having a large pimple...it's there and you just can't wait for it to go away.

I'll get over it if no Ignore Thread feature happens but I sure would like one sometimes.

DesertEyes

Great idea. Request noted, I will pass it along to the programmers.

Mike

Aeryn

Cool!!!! SR and the moderators rock!

OnawaMiniya

Not fond of that either.

Good suggestion about ignoring entire threads.

Peace.

Vandermast

didnt even know it existed...

thanx guys..will use as necessary

v

LifeRecovery

Aeryn-

I don't take it as anyone was slower or faster but that there were different points to work on for each person as they recover.

I have been amazed to watch the growth of all of us, often not because of the similarities, but because of the differences needed.

Triggers are so hard, but I am so impressed that you re-did this thread, put it out there and are problem solving around it....not just for you, but for all of us here.

In my therapy I am finally at the point of saying it, and getting my triggers out there is SO much less painful than not saying it and staying in the same patterns.

I want to thank you for being here and for me showing such long-term recovery that I think most of us so desperately need to see modeled.

Aeryn

Thank you so much LR!! I consider you part of my original "class" here too!!! And m1k3 and some others...those four just sort of popped to mind when I bumped this thread the other night but there are so so many and you have helped me on my journey too.

For me ignoring those threads is hard...because the trigger is big but I did all of them fairly well I think.

It's interesting you say you're at the point of saying when your triggers happen because I guess I would say that's where I am too...so no more running but at the same time I try to not let whatever emotion goes with the trigger pull me in my response....so I guess it's a balance rope as I navigate through it...if you read the ACOA forum something is going on my my mother that I've been working on too...a big trigger so these things sort of overlapped...guess that's one of those Universe things where I got to learn two things at once.

LindaLou

I just do like some of the others...skim the thread. I have never hit the ignore button. I choose to ignore individual posts instead of the person.