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I had a revelation today that I shared with my AFG and I am very excited about it. Thought I would share.
My boundaries should not consist of "you" statements. They should consist of "I" statements. For example ...
Bad: You need a job or I will leave.
Good: In my relationships, I expect both parties to be equal contributers.
I have been allowing other people to set my boundaries for me. While I still have much to learn, I am excited by this revelation. So much easier to stand by "me" statements than "you" statements because I am all I can control!
My boundaries should not consist of "you" statements. They should consist of "I" statements. For example ...
Bad: You need a job or I will leave.
Good: In my relationships, I expect both parties to be equal contributers.
I have been allowing other people to set my boundaries for me. While I still have much to learn, I am excited by this revelation. So much easier to stand by "me" statements than "you" statements because I am all I can control!
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I agree that's awesome. I believe that true boundaries are only based on me and what I will accept in my life. The other is a "rule." Trying to impose rules on others in order to make my life more comfortable is frustrating and exhausting. Good for you!
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....gosh i saw quickie post...and i thought....ooh forget what i thought!! LMAO!
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I wish everyone would use the "I" statements. I admit, I don't always use the "I" statements, but I'm working on it.
I think if everyone were able to do that it could save a lot of arguing and hurt.
Thanks for sharing!
I think if everyone were able to do that it could save a lot of arguing and hurt.
Thanks for sharing!
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