HELP .... Need strength
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I'm going on 4 months since our last "sexual" encounter. At least 7-8 months since anything with meaning and intimacy. I hate it. Absolutely hate it. I'm not an overly sexual person, but the connection that comes from true intimacy... I think it really feeds the spirit.
It's hell living with someone that you have no emotional connection too. The kids even said today, "Geez, Dad left and he didn't even say goodbye to you!" And the little one (3!) said, "Yeah, not even a hug and kiss. That's not right Mom!" No, it's not right... and that's why we need to end this chirade.
It's hell living with someone that you have no emotional connection too. The kids even said today, "Geez, Dad left and he didn't even say goodbye to you!" And the little one (3!) said, "Yeah, not even a hug and kiss. That's not right Mom!" No, it's not right... and that's why we need to end this chirade.
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I hear you gettingby! Mine leaves without saying goodbye now too and at first it bothered me but now I just accept it is part of the process of our splitting up.
I really am trying to focus on my FUTURE and not the split. He is still trying to manipulate me and has been doing well again for a few weeks. It makes it hard because I can easily get sucked back in if I don't play the tape all the way through. He always does well for a while and BAM the drinking, hiding it, lying about it and all the BS starts again. I do not want to live this dance, cycle, pattern over and over again.
Let's keep each other strong and help each other to the end of the crazy addictionland into the PEACEFUL life we all deserve and should be living.
I really am trying to focus on my FUTURE and not the split. He is still trying to manipulate me and has been doing well again for a few weeks. It makes it hard because I can easily get sucked back in if I don't play the tape all the way through. He always does well for a while and BAM the drinking, hiding it, lying about it and all the BS starts again. I do not want to live this dance, cycle, pattern over and over again.
Let's keep each other strong and help each other to the end of the crazy addictionland into the PEACEFUL life we all deserve and should be living.
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And there hasn't been any real sort of emotional connection for years. I can honestly say I can't remember the last time I was kissed. Maybe when youngest was born?(which will be 3 years on the 15th).
how to survive? Well, I guess I'm just used to it, there have been several months-long outages throughout the marriage(the longest being a full year for the Korea deployment)
Well, and smut fanfiction. LOL
how to survive? Well, I guess I'm just used to it, there have been several months-long outages throughout the marriage(the longest being a full year for the Korea deployment)
Well, and smut fanfiction. LOL
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hummm sex?...February was 1 year....i think a i need a plumber...*lol*...no no! but i have shares in the ENERGY BUNNY batteries 
(oh gosh that is too funny!)
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