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Update!
So it's been a very very long time since I posted here. And I was only on for a short time. I just wanted to say thank you to all the people who gave me wisdom when I needed it most. While it took a few months to finally manage, I did get out of my relationship with the alcoholic I was with, and it's been over a year and a half. I couldn't be more thankful everyday for all the things this website and those who post here opened my eyes too.
I moved on, almost a year now with a new relationship and this girl is amazing! I forgot how nice it is to keep a 6 pack in my fridge so I can have just 1 beer when I feel like it, how I don't run out at midnight anymore to get one more six pack because my ex couldn't fall asleep unless she had an open can or bottle next to her for security. There is never screaming or yelling or any of that horrible stuff that went on in my past relationship. It's amazing to be in a mutually beneficial relationship with someone that you don't have to walk on egg shells with and can laugh and not cringe knowing that for every good week there are going to be three bad weeks. The endless alcoholic cycle I was in of nice, nice with little drinking, drinking a lot more, drunk and mean, drunk and mean and close to the edge, drunk and mean and screaming, world crashing down, then back to the nice for a few days just to repeat itself.
As for my ex, I still have mutual friends left over from when I was with my ex. I know she is engaged which I was happy for her. She does send me a text once a month or every other month because she is on a bad binge again, or fighting with her current fiance like we used to, and just like when we were together things are so bad they break up for a week so she tries to get back together with me. I simply ignore the text in hopes some day she'll just give it up.
It's so refreshing to be seeing her issues from the outside and not on the dark inside I was at when I was with her. The screaming, the fighting, the dumping out beer bottles before she could drink them, the waking up to her peeing on the floor, all the crazy things that happened I am so grateful I don't have to deal with anymore. I don't know how I ever got sucked into such a relationship since we'd only been dating a short while when I found out she was an alcoholic and had no real ties that I could have easily walked away. My heart goes out to those whom can't so easily walk away because of marriage, or children, or it's a family member.
For those who remember I commented on a lot of the stories I found here, saying it seems like they all ended up so sad... and I'm proud and thankful to say that this story didn't end up sad in part because of many of you.
Always thankful and no longer hopeless,
Dustin
I moved on, almost a year now with a new relationship and this girl is amazing! I forgot how nice it is to keep a 6 pack in my fridge so I can have just 1 beer when I feel like it, how I don't run out at midnight anymore to get one more six pack because my ex couldn't fall asleep unless she had an open can or bottle next to her for security. There is never screaming or yelling or any of that horrible stuff that went on in my past relationship. It's amazing to be in a mutually beneficial relationship with someone that you don't have to walk on egg shells with and can laugh and not cringe knowing that for every good week there are going to be three bad weeks. The endless alcoholic cycle I was in of nice, nice with little drinking, drinking a lot more, drunk and mean, drunk and mean and close to the edge, drunk and mean and screaming, world crashing down, then back to the nice for a few days just to repeat itself.
As for my ex, I still have mutual friends left over from when I was with my ex. I know she is engaged which I was happy for her. She does send me a text once a month or every other month because she is on a bad binge again, or fighting with her current fiance like we used to, and just like when we were together things are so bad they break up for a week so she tries to get back together with me. I simply ignore the text in hopes some day she'll just give it up.
It's so refreshing to be seeing her issues from the outside and not on the dark inside I was at when I was with her. The screaming, the fighting, the dumping out beer bottles before she could drink them, the waking up to her peeing on the floor, all the crazy things that happened I am so grateful I don't have to deal with anymore. I don't know how I ever got sucked into such a relationship since we'd only been dating a short while when I found out she was an alcoholic and had no real ties that I could have easily walked away. My heart goes out to those whom can't so easily walk away because of marriage, or children, or it's a family member.
For those who remember I commented on a lot of the stories I found here, saying it seems like they all ended up so sad... and I'm proud and thankful to say that this story didn't end up sad in part because of many of you.
Always thankful and no longer hopeless,
Dustin
Congratulations! Glad to hear that things are going much better for you now. All that just goes to show that there is live after alcoholism, but it takes work on both sides.
Thanks for sharing. I believe there is life after this roller-coaster ride, but it is me that has to go find it and make it happen. You did, and it sounds wonderful. Congrats to you. It's inspiring!
So it seems the "run away" strategy worked well. Glad to hear. while I am new here and don't know your story, it sounds all to familiar: Nice guy (or gal), who probably doesn't have a mean or selfish bone in thier body somehow (probably crazy wild sex) gets in a relationship with an alcoholic. The good news is you managed to quickly see it for what it was and was going to be. And you took a decisive action bettering your life in the process. Bravo.
new folks should read and heed.
new folks should read and heed.
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