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Old 03-24-2011, 05:05 PM
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This is one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite TV shows but I will post it just as a question because I like it so much. It applies to all relationships, not just with Alcoholics. So here it is: "When you love someone, and you break up, where does that love go"?

What do you guys think? Been thinking alot about love and relationships lately...
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Old 03-24-2011, 06:12 PM
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For me, it stays there for quite awhile, and then just slowly fades away.

That's the thing with love - it takes work to keep it burning bright. With out work and nuturing, it dies.

I am in the process of separating from and divorcing my AH... it doesn't mean that I don't love him, I just don't like him, or the life we have together, or the person he has turned me into. But I love him... and as the father of my children, I suspect I will love him for a long time...
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Old 03-24-2011, 07:04 PM
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"When you love someone, and you break up, where does that love go"?
I think that is what has kept me married for so long even though I have been unhappy for a long long time... The fact that I still feel love for my AH and don't know where to put or get rid of that love when we split... I feel like being with him hurts but being without him will hurt too and I've stuck in in part bc I haven't wanted to have to try and answer the question of what will I do with the love I still feel even though our marriage is done.

I have no answer to that question still but I've decided that the uncertainty and sadness I know I will feel is preferable to the pain of staying and THAT is something that took a long time to get to...
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Old 03-24-2011, 07:27 PM
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I still love XABF, in my own way, from a distance.
I do hope he gets the help he needs - but that's in his hands, and God's hands, and out of my hands completely.

The lucky kitten is getting the rest of the love.
Spoiled brat is curled up in my lap, sleeping, purring her little heart out.
I am up way past my bed time, but she's so sweet, and I don't want to disturb her.
So here I sit, here I type, let's see how long this catnap lasts.
Spoiled kitten. I let her get away with almost anything. But unlike XABF, she appreciates it.
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The saddest part about loving an Alcoholic is that you love them with all your heart and they can only half love you back. They already have a wife, a girlfriend, a mistress, and that would be their drink. Its not really fair is it? At least that is how I felt...they draw you in only to pull back.
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My love is mine. It's in me, a part of me. It never goes away. I have it no matter what happens. Who I choose to share it with can change, but it's always right here.

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Old 03-24-2011, 10:04 PM
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We've got a little starter flame for love inside of us that we use to ignite our relationships with others. When one of those loving relationships is severed, the flame dies down into embers but may always be there, putting out a little bit of warmth. Sometimes, the embers go cold. But we still have our starter flame.
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Old 03-25-2011, 11:27 AM
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it goes back to the Self - where it should have been in the beginning.

if you've ever seen a 'fiber cutting ceremony'

it's exactly that -
the shaman 'cuts' the fibers connecting
energy fibers to each other.

then the shaman re routes the fibers
back to the Self.
they aren't left to flop around.
The energy body replenishes itself.

That's how it was designed to work.
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This is one of my favorite quotes from one of my favorite TV shows but I will post it just as a question because I like it so much. It applies to all relationships, not just with Alcoholics. So here it is: "When you love someone, and you break up, where does that love go"?

What do you guys think? Been thinking alot about love and relationships lately...
It either burns up in the atmosphere.
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