browneyes1

I'm 49 and AH is 51. We've been married 27 years now. Wow. Anyway, he has always been a heavy drinker, and has now been diagnosed with Bi-Polar. He hasn't wanted to do anything (movies-go out to eat) for years now and that was getting really old as I am a social person. Well, now he is on disability due to his Bi-Polar. MHO, he hates his job and doesn't want to work and is milking it. All he does is watch ESPN and drink his beer. We are very close to losing our home to foreclosure due to his pay being cut in half. All we do is fight and I'm sooooo sick of it. I've lost so much respect for him now. Thanks for listening, just needed to get this off my chest.

barb dwyer

Hi Laney

I see you've posted two other times,
and just want to 'welcome' you again,
just in case I missed welcoming you the other times.

I'm so sorry about your situation
and am wondering if
you're seeking support in the f2f world as well?

Foreclosure is a nasty thing
and I sincerely hope
you're not going to have to
go through that alone.

I'm glad you found SR
and decided to share with us.

So:
Is there a group
(there's even foreclosure groups springing up, I see)
someplace where you can build some support?

browneyes1

Thank you, and yes I used to post about my AS. I think what really pi$$es me off about my husband is that he is NOT supposed to be drinking with these meds he's on, but he doesn't seem to care.

I'm to the point if he don't care if he gets better then I don't either. I'm so sick of seeing him sitting there and doing nothing but drinking and watching sports. I need a life too.

He's home all day on disability, wouldn't you think he could do housework and cooking since I'm working? I've had it.

Verbena

We are not allowed to give medical advice on this forum. It's a good rule with excellent reasoning behind it. Anyway, I'm not a doctor nor a brain scientist.

I urge to you get the book "Beyond the Influence" (Katherine Ketcham and William Fl. Asbury) which does have some discussion about drinking while on medication for depression etc.

You can find the book cheap on-line. Amazon and Alibris have it.

barb dwyer

Speaking as an alcoholic in recovery

I wish it WERE as simple as 'choosing' what to do.
I've known alcoholics
who found themselves on their third drink
after swearing they'd not pick up.

It's not as simple as a choice.

Not when the addiction is a physical one.

I never thought I'd become physically addicted to alcohol
thinking the mind controls the body and all that ninja stuff.
But with alcoholism
that's simply not true.

And being the one doing all the work
is a terrible thing to live through.
I personally ... am a wonderful 'provider'.
(to be read dripping with sarcasm)
I'm the kiss of death to a working man.
Every single man I was with
quit their job within months
and sprouted roots on the couch.

I'm still trying to figure that one out.

But I'll figure it out
while paying only my own bills for now.

One thing feeds the other
and before you know it
bang.
Blowup.

I'm glad you found us and can vent here.

Maybe pick up some ideas
on making some kind of plan
to cope.