sherry1

Its so hard to see someone you love - in so much pain and you know theres nothing you can do and very hard to watch him fall apart in front of your eyes. It started a few weeks ago when he had relapsed. then out of no where , he had to do a random drug test at work. Lets say it hasnt turned out good. He was fired today from his job that he loved so much. The good thing is he was talking to me about it and he's sober . Thats good start
He admitted to me today that he is really messed up inside. I feel he has hit rock bottom

i know this isnt my fault or I cant change what has happened to him. As much as I would like to be able to snap my fingers and have things to the way they were and then old him back . I cant . Everything has to come from him now.
I believe reality has hit him dead on - now he's got to face the music

Pelican

A slogan I learned in my recovery from my relationship with an alcoholic:

"Let Go and let God"

The version I learned here that speaks to me:

"Let Go or Be Dragged"

I had to stop being my A's counselor, financial advisor, secretary, nurse, mom, sponsor, maid, chef, etc. I had to detach from being enmessed in his life and his addiction.

It was difficult, even hard at times. I felt like I was turning my back. In reality, I was finally taking care of myself and allowing the other adult in my life to assume responsibility for himself.

I was detaching from the addiction, not the person.