FenrirUlf

This line of posts has been helpful to read. I recently discovered that my fiance drinks and hides it... I will keep reading and learning. I come from a family where alcoholism is rampant and I am also in recovery. So happy to have found this site.

TeM

My AW still sneaks, even though we know, and she knows we know. She's gotten pretty good at it, too. I don't follow her around, but she manages to spike her Dr. Pepper without me seeing or hearing it. (I know it's there because I can smell it, and she becomes obviously intoxicated as the afternoon progresses).

Just my opinion, but if someone is going to great lengths to hide it, that's probably a red flag.

Best of luck, and keep posting.

Hayfmr

My soon to be EX AW hid her drinking from me for a long time. Their were signs before we got married but I didn't see them at the time. As was said by someone else if you marry this woman your life is going to turn into pure ####. I tried everything possible. Took the booze, dumped it out, confronted her, let her drink. Nothing worked and all I did was make her mad at me. I am in the process of a very expensive divorce that would have never happened if I had been smart enough to never marry her. My problem was that I had never been around alcoholics and didn't know anything about how they act. My advise is to get out now because you can't make her quit drinking.