Kat67

I just found out this evening that my ex-boyfriend relapsed.
I'm shocked because he seemed to be ok. Right away I felt sad and worried for
him and wanted to try and contact him. I guess that's the codependent in me.
I can't stop thinking about him though. I know his choice of drug and I'm scared for him. I also know all I can do for him is pray, but I want to do more.
He was coming up on his three years and he was doing so well for himself, getting time with his son, got his own place, new car.....
Then the crazy thinking happened if I had stayed with him would he have ever relapsed. I know thats irrational but I can't help it.
I'm an alcoholic, sober for a year and seven months, and I can't imagine what it must have been like for my mom. Having to watch me abuse my self for what.
I'm so grateful to be sober and hope I never have to go back to the hell of using. Thank you to my higher power and to all though's who are trying to stay sober. Thank you friends and family.
Kathryn

TakingCharge999

Hi Kat
He is in HP's hands.
The illusion that you can cure him is just that, illusion.
I am so glad YOU are sober and still sober.
My therapist used to treat alcoholics but stopped. She told me it was exhausting and frustrating. And helping them was her JOB.
Letting them go is the best we can do.
((Hugs))

djayr

Alcoholism = baffling & powerful.

Babyblue

Funny, I am going through the same thing. The ABF has vanished.. I'm about 80% sure he relapsed. I was frantic when I figured this out, thought about who I could call or talk to blah blah blah. Then I realized NONE of that would bring him back to sobriety. It was me spinning my emotional/co dependent wheels.

Worry is a normal response. But I know now that I need to worry about myself and how to not let his alcoholic world invade mine, or suck the emotional lifeblood out of me.

I'm protecting my space. And sounds like you are too.

Thanks for posting this btw.

Cyranoak

Why are you involved in this? Go to Alanon.

Cyranoak

Impurrfect

(((Kat))) - I'm sorry to hear about your XABF. It's hard when anyone who's had time in recovery goes back out, and even harder when you had a past with them.

There's nothing you could have done, he didn't go back out because you weren't with him...he made that choice, just like you have chosen recovery.

Speaking of, SOOO happy to hear from you and congrats on your 1-year-7-months!!

Hugs and prayers,

Amy

Kat67

I'm Involved in this cause I care about him. I know I can't help him, only pray he'll get through it.