Just as well I didn't go meet him...
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Just as well I didn't go meet him...
lol just as well was gonna be too busy to meet the Alcoholic ex-bf... Been in bed all day with a tummy bug, booo! 
He texted me AGAIN last night. Has anyone else experienced this kind of behaviour from an AXBF? And what does it mean when they try to keep in touch? He said he wanted to be "best friends" during break up. He'll text me about random things or things i've been up to he's seen on my facebook page... He always texts me 1st every 3 or 4 days and clutches at straws to keep convo going. He also keeps calling me by the pet names we had for eachother? Is this typical behaviour of an alcoholic ex when they realise their behaviour? He also has been saying he missed me. Its only been 2 1/2 weeks since break up
Arrrggghhh!!!
He texted me AGAIN last night. Has anyone else experienced this kind of behaviour from an AXBF? And what does it mean when they try to keep in touch? He said he wanted to be "best friends" during break up. He'll text me about random things or things i've been up to he's seen on my facebook page... He always texts me 1st every 3 or 4 days and clutches at straws to keep convo going. He also keeps calling me by the pet names we had for eachother? Is this typical behaviour of an alcoholic ex when they realise their behaviour? He also has been saying he missed me. Its only been 2 1/2 weeks since break up
Arrrggghhh!!!
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It has been my experience that behavior like that coming from an alcoholic or addicted XBF is Fishing; trying to hook me back into the relationship. Don't bite. Stay in bed and get your strength back.
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What does it matter what *he* wants post-break up?
IMO, people want to remain "best friends" because they are not quite ready to move on, want to leave the door open just in case, or want to absolve themselves of some guilt they feel.
Why keep his drama in your life? No contact = starting on the road to serenity.
IMO, people want to remain "best friends" because they are not quite ready to move on, want to leave the door open just in case, or want to absolve themselves of some guilt they feel.
Why keep his drama in your life? No contact = starting on the road to serenity.
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Heh. He's got a copy of the script, then?
Easiest way to stop all of that is to delete him from FB and don't respond to his texts. If you have to change your number, then so be it. If you have to play a game, then at least plays yours, not his.
Easiest way to stop all of that is to delete him from FB and don't respond to his texts. If you have to change your number, then so be it. If you have to play a game, then at least plays yours, not his.
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cha CHING!!!
brilliant.
I had a 'love of my live' guy
who'd call and keep up with me
hearing from him like four times a year...
finally a few yearsa ago
I just emailed him back
and said
'you know - all this just keeps the pain fresh for me. Please leave me alone. I don't want this any more.'
and I'll be dang - I've been great!
thanks - your post made me LOL.
What does it matter what *he* wants post-break up?
I had a 'love of my live' guy
who'd call and keep up with me
hearing from him like four times a year...
finally a few yearsa ago
I just emailed him back
and said
'you know - all this just keeps the pain fresh for me. Please leave me alone. I don't want this any more.'
and I'll be dang - I've been great!
thanks - your post made me LOL.
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My AH - in a moment of resignation as I was packing my suitcase, said "well...one day I hope we can be friends". My response: "Screw being friends - I wanted to be your wife. That's why I married you. If I can't have that, I don't ever want to see you again". And today, I still mean that!
Be strong in your resolve and it'll start feeling better in time.
Be strong in your resolve and it'll start feeling better in time.
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Originally Posted by twinkle1987 
why do they insist on this kind of behaviour? It's like they wanna push you with one hand and pull with the other...
This will drive you crazy if you stay on the merry-go-round. Hop off
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