Sitting on hands...
 

Why? My teenage son just posted to facebook(stupid FB capable phone his father just HAD to buy him) from school "just ate the nastiest food". BIL, the one that was with AH, and further encouraged him to drink and drive the night he got his DUI, not that AH isn't responsible for his own actions of course, comments back on it "your moms nasty".

Oh my, I want to comment on the post SO badly back to this BIL(he's also an alkie, from what I've seen) But I don't need that in my life right now. So I'm just going to put it here instead.

Good idea. You don't need to lower yourself to such childishness.

Ahh, problem fixed. I forgot about the "hide post* button.

I would be feeling the same way.
The whole social network thing is not in my cup of tea. My AW has a FB account and I sometimes wonder if her best friend ever makes comments about me. Her best friend is an alkie to. In the end, I'm happy I don't have a FB account. Too much drivel and nonsense. I've got enough stuff to filter in my mind.

This isn't a dig on you or your involvement in FB. Do what you do and keep sitting on those hands.

It's okay, I'm mostly on it for my playgroup friends, it's easier to keep in touch this way than over the phone most of the time. and I have my son on mine because well, he's my kid and it's my way of watching out for him, KWIM?

i do think it's rather sad that a 34 year old man(BIL) talks that way.

Agreed...

You did the right thing, though.

The last thing your son needs is to feel his FB page has become a battleground between you and BIL.

To be honest, it's extremely poor taste and bad behavior to do that on a child's page. It would be bad enough on an adult's!

And I think both BIL and AH have lost that filter in their mind. Or they use the excuse "only joking" yeah, like anyone but their alkie friends believes that.
BIL is always posting about which bar he's going to, how much he's had to drink that night, etc. And yet apologizes to my kids for not having Christmas presents for them(not that he has to give them anything, but he brings it up)

OMG, why have I stayed in this family for so long?

X hide posts from this person
and
'block this user'

are our FRIENDS. I use them ... often!

If he started drinking as a teen, that is where he is stuck. Yes, it is sad that an adult would say such a thing to your son. There is still no excuse though, the reason is he is a drunk teenager, but not an excuse.

My ex would say disgusting things sometimes, and when he saw the look on my face, he would say "man, i was only kidding!" really? about rape? yeah, that is so funny.
geez.

Beth

As soon as I figured out what the whole fb thing was about -

I went straightaway and found my kids.

then I went right out

and found my ex (their father)
and BLOCKED him.

My settings specify
that only my friends can see my posts.

I blocked all my exes that I could find
family members
even that nasty hurtful slumlord I told y'all about.

No one - NO ONE
can get to me on fb without my knowing about it.

I keep pretty careful watch over the 'flavor' of posts as well ...
fb is sort of my mobile SR
and I keep that energy going in there, as well as I can.

without being totally anal about it - I am admittedly... vigilant about my fb.

I could see what my BIL posted because it was on my son's post(which did show up on my wall) I blocked my husband and SIL months ago, plus my profile is locked up tight, and I'm not searchable.

I need to see if I can block BIL even if I'm not his friend. And yes, he did start drinking heavily in high school, so that explains matters with him, my AH didn't start drinking like he does now until he was an adult.

When DS got home from school, I had him delete the post. Maybe it will send a message to BIL, but I doubt it.

yes you can block him without being a friend.

and the BEST part- they never know about it.

Ooh, off to do that now. Thanks!