jayscott
LOL...came home today and had to notify her that our hearing is on Thursday morning. She asked why we couldn't negotiate something, we're "both reasonable adults". Mmhmm. I said I was only comfortable with supervised visitation until she got a substantial period of sobriety behind her, which pretty much ended negotiations.
Not sure if she thinks she will persuade the court somehow for joint custody or if she really doesn't believe they would take away her rights. Fireworks coming soon!
Not sure if she thinks she will persuade the court somehow for joint custody or if she really doesn't believe they would take away her rights. Fireworks coming soon!
She asked why we couldn't negotiate something, we're "both reasonable adults".
Good for you, man. Good luck on Thursday.
Also LOL: the rational side of my brain is arguing, "if I just got divorce papers because of my drinking and I might lose my son because of my drinking, I am driving to Betty Ford TONIGHT." Still can't help but try to project my unmet wishes into her brain.
Isn't that the truth!! I mean how long does it take to figure THAT out??? Cunning & baffling disease, as they say. On the other hand, there may be a wee part of her brain that's thinking, "Good. Now I can drink all I want without anyone hassling me."
Just curious...What does your lawyer say about providing some kind of "proof" that she's not a responsible caregiver? I mean, is it just going to be your word that's good enough or what?
Just curious...What does your lawyer say about providing some kind of "proof" that she's not a responsible caregiver? I mean, is it just going to be your word that's good enough or what?
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jayscott has a video recording of an incident correct? I'm wondering how much weight that stuff carries.
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jayscott...I am not sure what state you live in, but I have had professional legal experience with family law in Massachusetts and Virginia. If there is a history of abuse on her part both against you and with alcohol/drugs, you can petition the court for temporary physical custody and request supervised visitation. In Massachusetts, you can request a psych eval/drug test as well. I am not sure what the "standard of proof" is but it may be worth a try. I am sure your attorney has told you what your options are. I hope your hearing goes well on Thursday!!! Hang in there! I was in a custody battle for 2 years - it is not an easy road.
How about this? Legally separate, she moves out, you decide in one years time if you wish to file for divorce?
The California divorce process doesn't move forward unless the petitioner moves it forward, so technically if I don't do anything we would sit here in limbo 'till death do us part. My lawyer doesn't seem very concerned about proving my case enough for a temporary custody order; there's a domestic violence call from last week where the cops saw how drunk she was, a detox trip last fall from an involuntary psych hold, a CPS report on file, and a 1-year drinking log I have in a Word doc. Proving anything for a permanent custody order would probably require getting subpeonas for hospital records and stuff, but I'm not gonna worry about that today.
If it REALLY came to it, I have both her mom and mine who have witnessed a binge.
If it REALLY came to it, I have both her mom and mine who have witnessed a binge.
My lawyer doesn't seem very concerned about proving my case enough for a temporary custody order; there's a domestic violence call from last week where the cops saw how drunk she was, a detox trip last fall from an involuntary psych hold, a CPS report on file, and a 1-year drinking log I have in a Word doc.
There was one incident when I was out of town and my "lie-dar" went off when we were on the phone, but that's not very useful in court...
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