If You Don't Marry Them...
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If I had not married him.......
I would not have the most amazing partner to share my recovery and my life
with.
I would not have had the second ( or third) chance to have a wonderful family.
I would not have been witness to my husband beginning his personal walk with his higher power
I would not know the most devoted man, not only to me but to his program, sponsee, faith,children or life.
I would not have a personal example of how wonderful this program is.
I would have been whole and my own light but together we shine twice as bright. Always remember a recovering alcoholic is still an alcoholic and there is hope.
I would not have the most amazing partner to share my recovery and my life
with.
I would not have had the second ( or third) chance to have a wonderful family.
I would not have been witness to my husband beginning his personal walk with his higher power
I would not know the most devoted man, not only to me but to his program, sponsee, faith,children or life.
I would not have a personal example of how wonderful this program is.
I would have been whole and my own light but together we shine twice as bright. Always remember a recovering alcoholic is still an alcoholic and there is hope.
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Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: Anchorage, Alaska
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Originally Posted by Cynay 
If I had not married him.......
I would not have the most amazing partner to share my recovery and my life
with.
I would not have had the second ( or third) chance to have a wonderful family.
I would not have been witness to my husband beginning his personal walk with his higher power
I would not know the most devoted man, not only to me but to his program, sponsee, faith,children or life.
I would not have a personal example of how wonderful this program is.
I would have been whole and my own light but together we shine twice as bright. Always remember a recovering alcoholic is still an alcoholic and there is hope.
I would not have the most amazing partner to share my recovery and my life
with.
I would not have had the second ( or third) chance to have a wonderful family.
I would not have been witness to my husband beginning his personal walk with his higher power
I would not know the most devoted man, not only to me but to his program, sponsee, faith,children or life.
I would not have a personal example of how wonderful this program is.
I would have been whole and my own light but together we shine twice as bright. Always remember a recovering alcoholic is still an alcoholic and there is hope.
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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Well said Cynay!
True recovery makes all the difference for anyone with addiction.
I am certain my EX could make a list of reasons why not marrying me was a healthier decision for him considering my codependency
Had we sought recovery together, we might have found our individual reasons to wed.
Thank you for posting!!
True recovery makes all the difference for anyone with addiction.
I am certain my EX could make a list of reasons why not marrying me was a healthier decision for him considering my codependency
Had we sought recovery together, we might have found our individual reasons to wed.
Thank you for posting!!
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... you might not have to find out how much you are able to compromise yourself out of existence before you decide to stand up for yourself.
... you might get to have the friends you want and be in contact with your family as much as you want.
... you would never say "that $10K for the divorce lawyer was the best investment I ever made!" and mean it from the bottom of your heart.
... you might get to have the friends you want and be in contact with your family as much as you want.
... you would never say "that $10K for the divorce lawyer was the best investment I ever made!" and mean it from the bottom of your heart.
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if you don't marry them and don't live with them...
you can walk away when they start getting drunk.
you can go to your own home and close the door.
you don't have to watch them lay about, depressed when they come down.
you can vaccumm in the middle of the day
you can unplug your phone, lock your door and take a nap
however, just because you didn't marry them or don't live with them, doesn't mean that the long arm of alcoholism won't reach you. it will.
if you don't live with them, it just makes it that much easier for them to lie to you.
if you don't live with them, why bother at all? if the two lives can't join together to make a life together, what's the point in pursuing a long-term relationship?
you can walk away when they start getting drunk.
you can go to your own home and close the door.
you don't have to watch them lay about, depressed when they come down.
you can vaccumm in the middle of the day
you can unplug your phone, lock your door and take a nap
however, just because you didn't marry them or don't live with them, doesn't mean that the long arm of alcoholism won't reach you. it will.
if you don't live with them, it just makes it that much easier for them to lie to you.
if you don't live with them, why bother at all? if the two lives can't join together to make a life together, what's the point in pursuing a long-term relationship?
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