She gave me money for xmas. no words, she was drunk.

Old 12-26-2010, 12:54 PM
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She gave me money for xmas. no words, she was drunk.

Went to my moms, his familys and friends house for xmas day/evening.
A did great, limited his time at his drunken extended familys. He suggested we leave way before I thought h emight, so he was able to come with me and son to our nice friends house, for a much more normal, few glasses of wine atmosphere for the other people.(A and I do not drink, now)

Just a note. I have not heard a word from MIL. No text, no call. I arrived, said hi, gave a mild hug, was cordial, gave her and her husband our small, humble bag of trinkey gifts that my son picked out for them, and some standard sweets.

She returned the gift with a card. I opened it and it said merry xmas and a hundred dollar bill. '

NO words, she was drunk, lips and teeth stained from hours of wine when we got there at 5pm.

I dont know how to feel, but I did write her a text this morning, thanked her, and told her I will apply the money to our sons birthday party next week. I said that the money will be a great help for that.

I hope I handled this well. I am not sure if I should have declined the cash. It is too late, now. ...

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Old 12-26-2010, 01:02 PM
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Let sleeping dogs lie. The gift was just that - a gift. Accepting the gift is not an endorsement of her choices.
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I think you handled it quite well. No point in trying to refuse the gift and perhaps causing a scene. Using it for your son's birthday party sounds like a great idea, too!
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Old 12-26-2010, 07:10 PM
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Seems to me, you had a better than expected time and your fears about MIL were not realised. I wouldn't rock her boat regarding the money gift either, and think you did well by answering her as you did.

Leave it in God's hands now, as I believe He will handle MIL the best way for you all.
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Sounds like you did great Buffalo. Really.
Happy Birthday to your boy and Merry Christmas!
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Old 12-27-2010, 08:08 AM
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You know I just realized something. She was drunk? If your MIL is an A, her behavior makes perfect sense!
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