Things a "normie" wouldn't know.... Part 1
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climb back in half an hour later to clean up the mess in case he cuts himself or worse...
Normies don't get out of bed at 11:30 and drive half an hour to BF's house to stare at driveway and see if he is home, then drive around the neighborhood and pass by his house 'non-chalantly' 10... 20 ... 30... times. Then give up, drive home not paying attention to anything but staring at every single car coming in the opppsite direction to see if it is him. Then get home, get in bed, toss and turn for 15 minutes, get up and do it all over again!!!
No, normies do not DO this. Only people driven completely insane by half-truths, cheats, lies, degradation, invalidation, abuse and control do this kind of ****.
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Originally Posted by Floss 
Normies don't climb into their alcoholic partners home through an open window, smash several bottles of booze against the brick wall, leave, climb back in half an hour later to clean up the mess in case he cuts himself or worse...(True again...as I said WAY back in the day)...
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Originally Posted by kptsj
A normie wouldn't have her AH drop his full plate of full and get blamed for it.
even back then I knew that was crazy. yay me. lol
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Normies dont spend hours days weeks months years wondering what they are doing wrong in their life and knowing deep down the real reason is the stupid relationship they stay in.
Normies dont just keep on keepin on waiting for things to change but changing nothing!!!
Three days ago I told XAH that he could not move across country and expect to live with me without some very strict terms. I told him I was tired of his unpredictable and volatile mood swings. I told him that I was over his bad behavior and drunken escapades. Including his stupid stories of being drugged at the casino, being abducted by aliens and hiding in the bushes behind his house because he was being chased by bad guys. I told him that I would no longer have conversations with him over the phone because he continues to call me names. I told him I would not subject my son to his crap and that i was worn thin by his stupid flowers, sparklies, and insincere apologies. He told me that i was being unreasonable and was ruining his life. In the short version i calmly explained to him that he ruined his own life. He got fired from his dream job because of his alcoholism and temper tantrums. You know what kids? I finally told him that i am a funny, intelligent, awesome woman who is loyal and devoted and special and God Bless It i deserve someone in my life who respects that and can reciprocate and appreciates my value as a woman and a person. Guess what? It has been radio silence ever since. He hasnt called, written or texted. Normally, i would be freaking out wondering if he is ok. Today... Not so much. He is a grown ass man who has to figure it out for himself. His consequences are his own and my life is wide open to be MINE!!!
Sorry for the yammering y'all. I just wanted to share because for the first time in a very long time i feel strong... I feel free.
Normies dont just keep on keepin on waiting for things to change but changing nothing!!!
Three days ago I told XAH that he could not move across country and expect to live with me without some very strict terms. I told him I was tired of his unpredictable and volatile mood swings. I told him that I was over his bad behavior and drunken escapades. Including his stupid stories of being drugged at the casino, being abducted by aliens and hiding in the bushes behind his house because he was being chased by bad guys. I told him that I would no longer have conversations with him over the phone because he continues to call me names. I told him I would not subject my son to his crap and that i was worn thin by his stupid flowers, sparklies, and insincere apologies. He told me that i was being unreasonable and was ruining his life. In the short version i calmly explained to him that he ruined his own life. He got fired from his dream job because of his alcoholism and temper tantrums. You know what kids? I finally told him that i am a funny, intelligent, awesome woman who is loyal and devoted and special and God Bless It i deserve someone in my life who respects that and can reciprocate and appreciates my value as a woman and a person. Guess what? It has been radio silence ever since. He hasnt called, written or texted. Normally, i would be freaking out wondering if he is ok. Today... Not so much. He is a grown ass man who has to figure it out for himself. His consequences are his own and my life is wide open to be MINE!!!
Sorry for the yammering y'all. I just wanted to share because for the first time in a very long time i feel strong... I feel free.
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Geez, can we make a book out of this thread and publish it?? I'm printing it out at least to a) remind myself I'm not alone and b) hold a mirror up to what my life is like when I'm too enmeshed in alcoholic-normal to really see it.
As Robbie Burns said:
O would some power the giftie gie us to see ourselves as others see us.
(O would some power the gift to give us to see ourselves as others see us.)
As Robbie Burns said:
O would some power the giftie gie us to see ourselves as others see us.
(O would some power the gift to give us to see ourselves as others see us.)
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Normies don't hire a small moving van to take their BF's stuff back to his house, rather than simply driving it over and helping carry it inside, because of fear what will happen if he sees her there.
(His stuff will be gone Tuesday. I am packing like a madwoman. This is so exciting.)
(His stuff will be gone Tuesday. I am packing like a madwoman. This is so exciting.)
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Originally Posted by StarCat
When normies walk into Home Depot, they aren't informed of the new location of Spackle, without having to ask.
I could spend hours in there. Hours I tell you.
I build a dream house in my head and walk around looking for the stuff to build it.
Yes, I love Home Depot.
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Originally Posted by someguy71
that it is my wife's cooking and not the alcohol that gives me diarrhea 
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Normies don't have their H coming home drunk and in the same minute realizing he wants to go out again, and when I begged him not to, he gets raging and doesn't know what to do with his rage so he punches the metal horn ornament that is decorating our wall and the thing flies accross the room and the tip of it cuts me deep above my eye, and the blood is rushing down my face, and I leave the drunk with kids while I drive myself from one hospital to the other when they can acctually do the stiches, pressing the towel against my wound, with blood dripping, hardly being able to see, thinking he didn't mean to. Or few days later, around the bed time, my son accidentally hits me in my cut, and it started to bleed again, and I phoned my AH, who was out drinking to come home, so I can go back to the hospital, but he didn't come until hours and hours later when there was no point in going back to hospital any more. And I'm left now with an inch long scar above my eyebrow.
Also, normies don't have their AH respond to every conversation you start with: "what the F is wrong with you? I don't know what are you on about!"
Sweet.
For these reasons and many more he is now promoted into STBXAH, that is out of my home, and divorce will be final in few months hopefully.
Also, normies don't have their AH respond to every conversation you start with: "what the F is wrong with you? I don't know what are you on about!"
Sweet.
For these reasons and many more he is now promoted into STBXAH, that is out of my home, and divorce will be final in few months hopefully.
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Normies don't sit in an emergency room at 2am on a work night, with a toddler in their arms, while the ER staff tends to the drunk with an alcohol induced (self inflicted) panic attack.
Normies certainly wouldn't still be around for the second or third act of this same play.
Normies don't have to explain to a 5yo that no, that's NOT mommy's blood all over the stairwell, it's only red wine all over the walls, where she fell up the steps and gashed her chin. Ha, luckily her face broke her fall.
THIS trip to the ER was the catalyst that began the end of the marriage, so thanks HP.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
P.S. I haven't been to the ER ONCE since axw moved out 4+ years ago, imagine that.
Normies certainly wouldn't still be around for the second or third act of this same play.
Normies don't have to explain to a 5yo that no, that's NOT mommy's blood all over the stairwell, it's only red wine all over the walls, where she fell up the steps and gashed her chin. Ha, luckily her face broke her fall.
THIS trip to the ER was the catalyst that began the end of the marriage, so thanks HP.
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote
P.S. I haven't been to the ER ONCE since axw moved out 4+ years ago, imagine that.
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Originally Posted by coyote21
Normies don't sit in an emergency room at 2am on a work night, with a toddler in their arms, while the ER staff tends to the drunk with an alcohol induced (self inflicted) panic attack.
Here I thought it was only because of the Prednisone he was taking.
Normies don't constantly "have" to provide reminders that mixing Prednisone with Tylenol and alcohol is a setup for liver disaster - only to be ignored.
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Originally Posted by StarCat
Alcohol causes panic attacks, too?
I almost jumped out of a moving vehicle once; I was so scared because my wife was driving me to work and I felt she wasn't driving "safely".
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normies wouldnt listen to their exA tell them that they must want them back after alll why are they in al anon cos they dont have a drunk their life so hence they must want them back stands to reason in a alcoholics mind lunacy though eh xxkia
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How about running to the emergency room because AH knows that too much alcohol makes him urinate blood. Then the blood clots and AH can not urinate at all and has to be roto rootered so he can pee again. Then says it is vodka that causes that to happen, so now he only drinks beer. Guess what, too much beer does the same thing, yet he soon forgets.
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