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Old 11-29-2010, 06:06 PM
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My ex just emailed about rehab

I had all my email accounts blocked from my ex and his phone from sending text to email...and his phone is blocked.

He just created a new email account and emailed me that he is considering "rehab and others."

What do you say to these kinds of things? I really believe it's just carrots in front of the face and BS.

But what if that person really is thinking that? What do you say? Or do you just ignore?
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Old 11-29-2010, 06:15 PM
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Words. That's all it is. Actions tell the truth. You don't have to respond. But if you feel you must, I would say something like "That's great. Let me know when you actually do it." And then let it go.

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Old 11-29-2010, 06:18 PM
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Words. That's all it is.
That's what I figure.
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Old 11-29-2010, 06:47 PM
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I'm considering a lot of things but that doesn't mean I'll actually do any of them. He's just trying to string you along...dangling the carrot, as you said. It's good that you are savvy enough to recognize it. Looks like you have another email address to block.
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Old 11-29-2010, 06:48 PM
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lotta effort on his part to tell you nothing more than he is CONSIDERING options........woo, now there's breaking news...hold on folks, he's THINKING!
HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHA. Oh you just made me laugh so hard.
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Old 11-29-2010, 06:49 PM
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Looks like you have another email address to block.
LOL. Yup.
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Old 11-29-2010, 07:05 PM
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It's good that you are savvy enough to recognize it.
I wouldnt' say I'm savvy. I've just known him for too long. lol.
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Old 11-29-2010, 07:07 PM
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And that makes you savvy to his quacking.
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Old 11-29-2010, 07:53 PM
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My xabf did this too! Until I started talking to him again, then allowed him to create tons and tons of chaos in my life, then finally hit my bottom two years ago. Run and don't stop. You will look back and be grateful!
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Old 11-29-2010, 08:12 PM
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I chose to ignore them. That worked for me. I didn't block him because it was our only form of communication but I only responded to the necessary ones and ignored alllll the rest and there were plenty.
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Old 11-29-2010, 09:16 PM
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Goldengirl,

It is easier to resist the bait than to struggle with the hook.

God loves me where I'm at, but He loves me too much to leave me there.

God doesn't close one door without opening a better one ......BUT...... we've got to get our fingers out of the closing door. The reason you're in pain is because you have your fingers in a door God is trying to close.

if it is meant to be...........I can't stop it
if it isn't god's will ............I can't make it happen

Don't buy into his cat-and-mouse games
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Old 11-30-2010, 06:29 AM
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yes, just wait. If he really does it, you will find out.
keep your no contact.
keep your serenity.
he may or may not do it.
and you do not have any control over that.
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Old 11-30-2010, 07:02 AM
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keep your serenity.
This. x 100.

This is YOUR serenity. No one else will give to you but you. So give yourself a nice gift, block the email and delete, then go have a nice latte/hot chocolate. Aaaaaah see? Much better
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Old 11-30-2010, 11:20 AM
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I had all my email accounts blocked from my ex and his phone from sending text to email...and his phone is blocked.

He just created a new email account and emailed me
Many might consider that considered harassment. If I was going to tell him anything it would be "If you ever email or attempt to contact me again, I will file a harrassment report with the police and I'll be sure to mention your drug activity. Consider yourself forewarned."
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Old 11-30-2010, 11:30 AM
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Whoa! I liked that better.
Perhaps he thinks about it and does it. What does it mean anyway? look at Lindsay Lohan... at least a one-year chip is what it takes for F&F to even *start* taking someone else's recovery seriously...

If you like magic tricks, rent a David copperfield DVD
Did you grab the chocolate?? or what was your special gift today?

Mine is: deep breathing.
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Old 11-30-2010, 05:22 PM
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Quack, Quack and more Quack, Quack!
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