goldengirl3

I had all my email accounts blocked from my ex and his phone from sending text to email...and his phone is blocked.

He just created a new email account and emailed me that he is considering "rehab and others."

What do you say to these kinds of things? I really believe it's just carrots in front of the face and BS.

But what if that person really is thinking that? What do you say? Or do you just ignore?

LaTeeDa

Words. That's all it is. Actions tell the truth. You don't have to respond. But if you feel you must, I would say something like "That's great. Let me know when you actually do it." And then let it go.

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goldengirl3

That's what I figure.

suki44883

I'm considering a lot of things but that doesn't mean I'll actually do any of them. He's just trying to string you along...dangling the carrot, as you said. It's good that you are savvy enough to recognize it. Looks like you have another email address to block.

goldengirl3

HAHAHHAHAHHAHAHA. Oh you just made me laugh so hard.

goldengirl3

LOL. Yup.

goldengirl3

I wouldnt' say I'm savvy. I've just known him for too long. lol.

suki44883

And that makes you savvy to his quacking.

NYC_Chick

My xabf did this too! Until I started talking to him again, then allowed him to create tons and tons of chaos in my life, then finally hit my bottom two years ago. Run and don't stop. You will look back and be grateful!

Thumper

I chose to ignore them. That worked for me. I didn't block him because it was our only form of communication but I only responded to the necessary ones and ignored alllll the rest and there were plenty.

Phoenixthebird

Goldengirl,

It is easier to resist the bait than to struggle with the hook.

God loves me where I'm at, but He loves me too much to leave me there.

God doesn't close one door without opening a better one ......BUT...... we've got to get our fingers out of the closing door. The reason you're in pain is because you have your fingers in a door God is trying to close.

if it is meant to be...........I can't stop it
if it isn't god's will ............I can't make it happen

Don't buy into his cat-and-mouse games

Buffalo66

yes, just wait. If he really does it, you will find out.
keep your no contact.
keep your serenity.
he may or may not do it.
and you do not have any control over that.

nodaybut2day

This. x 100.

This is YOUR serenity. No one else will give to you but you. So give yourself a nice gift, block the email and delete, then go have a nice latte/hot chocolate. Aaaaaah see? Much better

hello-kitty

Many might consider that considered harassment. If I was going to tell him anything it would be "If you ever email or attempt to contact me again, I will file a harrassment report with the police and I'll be sure to mention your drug activity. Consider yourself forewarned."

TakingCharge999

Whoa! I liked that better.
Perhaps he thinks about it and does it. What does it mean anyway? look at Lindsay Lohan... at least a one-year chip is what it takes for F&F to even *start* taking someone else's recovery seriously...

If you like magic tricks, rent a David copperfield DVD
Did you grab the chocolate?? or what was your special gift today?

Mine is: deep breathing.

dollydo

Quack, Quack and more Quack, Quack!