Can someone explain what it means to be "empty?"
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Is there any reason you see not to block him?
It sounds to me like you have your head screwed on pretty well in this.
What do you need?
I do admit, for about two minutes I had a small thought of "Well maybe I could spend Thanksgiving with him, the holidays suck alone" and then quickly went back to, "No that would just put off the inevitable, would be miserable and only enable his issues."
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It would just restart the cycle...
...all over again. Good for you for not giving in. Alcoholic addicts are always probing for the weakspot in their codies/enablers, and once they find a ch*nk in the armor you are back on the roller coaster. Know your achilles heal and protect it, whatever it is.
I'll take loneliness over drama every day of the week.
Just my opinion. Take what you want and leave the rest.
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P.s. Can you believe the Sober Recovery filter would not let me use a noun that describes, and has since the 14th Century, a crack, cleft, fissure or narrow opening, in my post? The filter is clearly not contextual, and there is no other word that works for that phrase. Good God.
I'll take loneliness over drama every day of the week.
Just my opinion. Take what you want and leave the rest.
Cyranoak
P.s. Can you believe the Sober Recovery filter would not let me use a noun that describes, and has since the 14th Century, a crack, cleft, fissure or narrow opening, in my post? The filter is clearly not contextual, and there is no other word that works for that phrase. Good God.
Empty
Alone.
Lonely.
Soul-less.
Darkness and silence.
Solitary place.
Disposition of total isolation.
Ardently sought peace.
Sinking quicksand.
Lost, forbidden, bewildered.
No desires; no dreams to seek.
No flesh to renew or forsake.
A missing link.
Meandering the shadows.
Miniscule masses of some essence
An empty space deep in the soul.
A piece of sand on a beach.
Running through a dark forest.
Hollow; without substance.
A fragile tree making no sound as it falls.
Just cradled by flesh and bones.
Crushed roots.
Numbness.
Teetering.
No white doves.
Blank.
Vacant thoughts.
Secreting darkness.
Hollow.
Melancholy Silence.
Mindless actions.
Empty.
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I'll take loneliness over drama every day of the week.
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I felt like I had always done that in a subconscious way...it was automatic to me. I think I have always been emotionally enabling.
The phrase they used was,"try to become conscious of the ways that you have always felt his pain for him, averted his danger for him, sheilded him from feeling the lonliness that his addiction has caued him to experience..."
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But I'll tell you what I've learned about alkies/addicts pursuing romantic relationships. When we first pursue a romantic relationship, the other relationships in our lives get moved to the back-burner
Another reason I decided to leave...I hated always wondering when the next new toy would come along.
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