fullcircle | 11-07-2010 06:02 AM | Ok I will try to flesh out the story.She is 40.She does want me, very much, to come.She has always had problems with self esteem and depression since she was gang raped as a child.She had some learning disabilities although she is very smart. Simple life tasks that involve any math or record keeping are beyond her.She has a collage degree in art but she supported herself as a stripper until she could no longer do that. She has arthritis. She needs knee replacements.She is in constant pain.She can't eat and she is down to 90 lbs. 3 years ago she got into a relationship with another woman who supported her and let her focus on her art.She has just begun to have success with that. She just had her first solo show and sold work.She does not want to leave NY since that is where she is most likely to have success in art. In August her partner found someone else and locked her out of the apartment. She is suing that person. She has a pro bono lawyer.She has known for a year that she should not drink anymore. Her body is way sensitive so that one glass of wine does what many would do to another. She started going to AA and now has some friends in AA,. When she gets upset or scared and that is pretty constant now, she wants badly to take a drink. I started going to Al anon and there I hear about detachment and enabling. It is hard for me to do that. Even if she did not have a problem with drink I would be there for her . To withhold that help now seems punishment. I could go to Al anon in NY, help her with the red tape,hold her while she cries, go to court with her.I have to find a place to stay that I can afford in Brooklyn or somewhere near her school. Ok, that's my story |