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10-12-2010, 06:55 AM

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nodaybut2day

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My prayers are with you Lola.

What a lovely gift you gave your mother in her last days. I also love the celebration of life you have planned.

10-12-2010, 11:48 AM

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ItsmeAlice

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Thinking of you. Hope you are finding peace today.
Alice

10-12-2010, 01:13 PM

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theuncertainty

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I'm so sorry for your loss, Lola. Sending hugs and wishing you peace.

10-12-2010, 10:35 PM

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Impurrfect

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(((Lola))) - I'm so sorry. Many hugs and prayers to you and all who loved her.

Amy

10-20-2010, 10:13 AM

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Lola1024

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Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts. I have made it back to CA safely and am getting my life sorted slowly. I feel rather like a zombie though - not really with it. I am missing mom of course but almost feel like the last month was not "real" somehow. I know this is just part of the process but indeed does feel strange. I am not going back to work until Monday which will give me extra down time. I feel a little guilty about the extra time off but want for once to take care of ME first rather than rushing. Work will wait ... right ? For any of you that have gone through this how long did that numb like stage last ? Through all the trauma life has handed me over the years I have never felt like this.

10-20-2010, 02:09 PM

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Freedom1990

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Lola, I haven't lost either of my parents yet, though I have lost someone I loved dearly.

That numbness is a part of grief, and grief is always a personal thing. There is no set time table.

Please know I will hold you close to my heart and keep you in my prayers, okay?

10-20-2010, 02:18 PM

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LovesToTravel

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So sorry to hear about the loss of your mother. She is out of pain now. I lost my father after a short illness back in April, I still have not come to grips with it yet. We all grieve in our own way. ((hugs to you))

10-20-2010, 03:00 PM

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Learn2Live

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I have no experience to share Lola but I do have (((hugs)))) for you. Don't feel guilty hon, take good care of yourself.

10-20-2010, 08:07 PM

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HoopNinja

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Lola I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my "adoptive" mom to breast cancer. She was my best friend's mom and she knew what I was living in at home with an alcoholic mom and got me out of there as much as she could. She taught me what a real family is. Grief is so personal. I was numb on and off for years. She died 15 years ago on St. Patrick's day. She is always in my heart.

It sounds like your mom was a wonderful lady. I am so happy she was able to be home surrounded by those who cherished her. Hugs to you. I'm keeping you in my thoughts.