Struggling with my emotions
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Struggling with my emotions
It's been one week since I asked the xabf to leave , which he did with relevant ease thinking about it .After speaking to landlord who was under the impression that xabf was taking on the rental of house , we struck a deal which meant I could afford to stay here , much to the relief of my girls also .I've had a few weak moments when i've cried myself to sleep over the xabf , finding it hard to believe he could throw me and the girls away like litter in the gutter .
He's texted asking for his computer equipment (flight simulator) etc today which he knows he will get when he's squared up for outstanding bills... oh and a text saying he had a woman now , couldn't lie to me , was sorry but I had my chance !! .. I know I should be sat here thinking , good luck to her , she may be getting the sausage now , but she'll end up with the whole pig ! ... but i'm devastated , he was never interested in other women when he's left before , only in the beer .
I wish i could travel forward in time six months , then maybe the pain in my heart wouldn't be so great ... ESH greatly appreciated right now
cyta x
He's texted asking for his computer equipment (flight simulator) etc today which he knows he will get when he's squared up for outstanding bills... oh and a text saying he had a woman now , couldn't lie to me , was sorry but I had my chance !! .. I know I should be sat here thinking , good luck to her , she may be getting the sausage now , but she'll end up with the whole pig ! ... but i'm devastated , he was never interested in other women when he's left before , only in the beer .
I wish i could travel forward in time six months , then maybe the pain in my heart wouldn't be so great ... ESH greatly appreciated right now
cyta x
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To thine own self be true.
... but i'm devastated , he was never interested in other women when he's left before , only in the beer .
The fastest, easiest way out of these feelings is to bite the bullet and stop communicating with him. Stop listening to the poison of his words.

The reason he is TELLING you these things, such as this nonsense:
sorry but I had my chance !!
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i know it hurts as mine did it to me, but try not to take it personally. it is no reflection on you as a person. he simply moved onto the next enabler. he might be lying just to manipulate you.
if you want to ease your pain, try going no contact with him. change your phone number so he can't call anymore.
if you keep talking to him, you can expect your pain to continue, plus you risk getting sucked back in.
if you want to ease your pain, try going no contact with him. change your phone number so he can't call anymore.
if you keep talking to him, you can expect your pain to continue, plus you risk getting sucked back in.
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oh and a text saying he had a woman now , couldn't lie to me , was sorry but I had my chance !!
Where the other woman is concerned, you said it best...she will eventually find out that she signed up for the whole pig, not just the sausage.
cried myself to sleep over the xabf , finding it hard to believe he could throw me and the girls away like litter in the gutter .
Once the pain has started to ease, and it will

Hugs and peace to you. You can get through this...and come out happier and healthier and stronger in the end.

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if you keep talking to him, you can expect your pain to continue, plus you risk getting sucked back in.
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Thankyou for the replies , I get great comfort from reading them . I've turned my phone off this evening and tomorrow plan to get a new number if my service provider can not block his number PERMANENTLY ,then hopefully I may feel calmer in myself
cyta x
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Hugs, Cytagirl. I agree that his communication about the other woman and 'your' chance is an attempt to emotionally manipulate you. She is just the next enabler, the next person to put up with the drinking and related craziness. I know right now hearing that probably doesn't make the pain any less, but it will ease over time. It helped me to make a list of off the cr-ppy behaviors that I no longer had to deal with and which will now be her problem.
Hugs.
Hugs.
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