There is an angle that you may not be considering. This man is like a ball and chain, a user that sucks the life out of you. He is taking all he can get--your happiness, your sanity, your health, your emotional welfare, and your finances. Every day that he continues to chip away at these things you have less than the day before. If you stay until the end, you'll both have nothing because he won't stop taking until there is nothing left to take. That is what takers do and most likely he won't ever feel a shred of guilt over it. The alcohol helps him keep the guilt at bay. How convenient.

You may be prolonging your suffering in hopes of receiving money that won't be there when you finally decide to move on.

And here's another angle you may not be considering. Once you are free of the old ball and chain, you will be able to thrive physically, emotionally, and financially because the taker of all things will have moved on and he can take no more.

My first proper boyfriend used to self harm and make regular suicide attempts. He would take pills and mix them with alcohol. He did it as a cry for help as he always made sure he ended up somewhere he would be found. Later on he got diagnosed with schitzophrenia.
No wonder I ended up with condependency problems when thats how my journey into love relationships began.

I do understand your predicament but I am inclined to agree with former doormat here. There really is so much more to life than money.

What happened to the PI payout?

This is a great example (and Wife's) where laws that were very hard fought for on behalf of women who didn't work outside of the home and who supported the husband in his career and did the bulk of the caring for the children are applied equally. And so it should be. Marriage is a legal contract - if the contract isn't working for you, then you get out of it at the first sign of trouble. Like any legal contract.

The way society has led us has done us all a great disservice.