Yes La I see what your saying

It's the - ohhh come on let's do it - I know you want it will be sooo nice (whiningggg)

It's almost like it's easy to get the concept if they are actively drinking.

Don't do this - don't do this - don't do that

There more of a fine line when we're living alcohol free but learning how deal as that free couple.

Thanks for the insight!!:ghug3

Lateeda, ChrrisT, right on the money. When expectation is attached and the whole whiny thing because you want what you want, and now, and everyone to bend to your will. Fine line.

I'm gonna print and save if you don't mind - it's so rare:tyou

It's like a light bulb when I finally saw it - and now I can recognize it when it's happening and try hard not to trudge down the road. I recognize that over so many years I stepped on so many people, AH included, not respecting them or their boundaries. At the time it felt ok because I justified why mine was the right way, but now realize how unaware I was. As my sponsor says - you don't know what you don't know. Once you do know, it really opens your eyes.