furious
When I am an old woman, I shall wear purple
with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
and satin candles, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I am tired
and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
and run my stick along the public railings
and make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
and pick the flowers in other people's gardens
and learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
and eat three pounds of sausages at a go
or only bread and pickles for a week
and hoard pens and pencils and beer nuts and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
and pay our rent and not swear in the street
and set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.
with a red hat that doesn't go, and doesn't suit me.
And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves
and satin candles, and say we've no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I am tired
and gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells
and run my stick along the public railings
and make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
and pick the flowers in other people's gardens
and learn to spit.
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
and eat three pounds of sausages at a go
or only bread and pickles for a week
and hoard pens and pencils and beer nuts and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry
and pay our rent and not swear in the street
and set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me are not too shocked and surprised
When suddenly I am old, and start to wear purple.
ok.
AH, who I have to admit has been uncomfortable with the girl before, just told me that the father said, "well I know Transform is really stressed out, maybe she could come over when the boys are with you."
Fortunatly, he and I are in agreement on this. Letting go now.
I think I have PMS.
AH, who I have to admit has been uncomfortable with the girl before, just told me that the father said, "well I know Transform is really stressed out, maybe she could come over when the boys are with you."
Fortunatly, he and I are in agreement on this. Letting go now.
I think I have PMS.
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OK Give me three buckets of that too. Im sorry I offended you, when I wrote it I wasnt trying to attack or insult you, it was my reaction to hearing about this little girl.
I guess I should of kept away from this particular post, it hits a very r a w nerve with me and its my problem.
Thanks Mike, I did go and read your links and I was reminded.
I guess I should of kept away from this particular post, it hits a very r a w nerve with me and its my problem.
Thanks Mike, I did go and read your links and I was reminded.
Thank you. I’m sorry too. For being so – I dunno- Darth Vader like. I know children, and pets, in danger is a huge trigger for lots of folks. And people responding to their triggers at me is a huge trigger for me. I’m very glad you’re back, though, I bet we have a lot to learn from each other. Thank you!
OH HELL NO. That is SO not cool. So now the dad is trying to subvert your authority and try to get his daughter in the back door while you aren't around? You would think he would maybe respect why you are putting some distance between your family and their family due to the sensitivity of the issue, but it seems as if he is just trying to unload his child so he doesn't have to deal with her. That, or he just wants to make sure his child gets her way. Way to disrespect, neighbour dude!
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Join Date: Aug 2009
Location: Portland, OR
Posts: 534
Yeah, I'm weirded out by how hard he's trying to push his daughter on your family. Maybe it's just the way I am that makes me feel weird about it. I wouldn't invite my child over to someone's house in a million years, let alone every day. If it seems like my daughter's friend is inviting her over too often, I'll call and check with the parents and make sure it's all good and offer to have them over here too.
Thank you!
I was once again, as the title says, furious when I heard that. Way to try to make me look like the problem. I'm done with that whole situation.
Good thing AH and I are discussing and agreeing on this one. He's not letting her come over to his house either. I think the kids should never be unsupervised around her. She's not a monster or anything, we just have massively different parenting beliefs and, I dunno, I don't think it's ok for them to look at porn on the internet. Or watch Family Guy. Or for her to straddle my 12 year old, or cross his boundaries in other ways. And I don't want my kids to be to be attacked by their giant crazy dog that regularly gets out and attacks people and other dogs and has to be put in a separate room when people come over.
Geez, what the hell is wrong with me? Why did I let it go this long? argh
I was once again, as the title says, furious when I heard that. Way to try to make me look like the problem. I'm done with that whole situation.
Good thing AH and I are discussing and agreeing on this one. He's not letting her come over to his house either. I think the kids should never be unsupervised around her. She's not a monster or anything, we just have massively different parenting beliefs and, I dunno, I don't think it's ok for them to look at porn on the internet. Or watch Family Guy. Or for her to straddle my 12 year old, or cross his boundaries in other ways. And I don't want my kids to be to be attacked by their giant crazy dog that regularly gets out and attacks people and other dogs and has to be put in a separate room when people come over.
Geez, what the hell is wrong with me? Why did I let it go this long? argh
You? There's nothing wrong with YOU. You are learning to determine and enforce boundaries. Learning ANYTHING new requires a period of discomfort. I'd say something is definitely not right with those neighbours, though. It sounds like they are raising their child in a pretty unwholesome and permissive environment. Good for you for seeing the WTF??!?? in THAT situation, and keeping your kiddos out of it.
all lessons to be learned...this is a awesome teaching experience for you to teach your child...I do this all the time...when I dont know something "we" all learn...even if its about "SEX"..we are the greatest role models....US PARENTS..
breathe.. and once calm down, take a step back and figure out...what is my Higher Power trying to teach me here? and how can I use this? courage2change may have answers to this also...
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breathe.. and once calm down, take a step back and figure out...what is my Higher Power trying to teach me here? and how can I use this? courage2change may have answers to this also...
BEST WISHES...
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