Knockin Noggin
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Knockin Noggin
Sometimes I just can't believe myself. Will my first reflexive response always be codie..?
3 People, 3 different conversations and my first inclinations are codie behaviors.
When I say I am okay when I don't feel okay so as not to worry family..that is codie and it is a LIE
When my XH emails me a down in the dumps short message my first thought is to cheer him up and reassure him. Oh, he says I have a good man now and he was just dragging us down...but wasn't Argentina great?
I did reply Argentina was magnificent and he knows I don't believe in divorce (not under the circumstances or the way he did it!) when the going gets hard.
I am tired of assuaging his guilt on that score or acting like it is/was okay.
and the next one I almost did was a reply on here.
I hope I handle myself better at my pdoc appmt this afternoon!!!! roll eyes!
3 People, 3 different conversations and my first inclinations are codie behaviors.
When I say I am okay when I don't feel okay so as not to worry family..that is codie and it is a LIE
When my XH emails me a down in the dumps short message my first thought is to cheer him up and reassure him. Oh, he says I have a good man now and he was just dragging us down...but wasn't Argentina great?
I did reply Argentina was magnificent and he knows I don't believe in divorce (not under the circumstances or the way he did it!) when the going gets hard.
I am tired of assuaging his guilt on that score or acting like it is/was okay.
and the next one I almost did was a reply on here.
I hope I handle myself better at my pdoc appmt this afternoon!!!! roll eyes!
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I'm with you right now on this one. I ALWAYS take the first emotion I feel and jump on it with both feet. If I actually took all of the time I really needed to come to a healthy choice people would be waiting on me for 10 minutes just to answer a simple question. It makes me feel slow and stupid.
Some days I feel like recovery is a long, dark tunnel. I never know if there is gonna be an end. It is hard to trust that I am getting better. I just don't know.
I really feel your pain on this one.
Some days I feel like recovery is a long, dark tunnel. I never know if there is gonna be an end. It is hard to trust that I am getting better. I just don't know.
I really feel your pain on this one.
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Knockin Noggin
Live... off topic...sort of... too funny NOT to share...
When I read your thread topic..."Knockin Noggin" the catchy song "Rockin Robin" immediately came to mind...
Now I'll be singing "Knockin Noggin"
YouTube - Rockin' Robin - Jackson 5 (Lyrics)
p.s. I'm Hammerhead for a reason... too much noggin knockin
When I read your thread topic..."Knockin Noggin" the catchy song "Rockin Robin" immediately came to mind...
Now I'll be singing "Knockin Noggin"
YouTube - Rockin' Robin - Jackson 5 (Lyrics)
p.s. I'm Hammerhead for a reason... too much noggin knockin
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I am already singing "Knockin Noggin" and driving myself nuts.
Stick with it Live, you look back and see if you haven't come a long way, so take those steps 1 at a time and you will reach the promised land.
God bless
Stick with it Live, you look back and see if you haven't come a long way, so take those steps 1 at a time and you will reach the promised land.
God bless
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