wanting

No! Don't listen to the Smiths when you're depressed! LOL.

Two songs that made me really happy when I was going through the worst of it were Lily Allen's "Smile" and Pink's "So What." They were both on Wii Karaoke, and I sang the hell out of them. I totally don't listen to that kind of music, so it was like my HP secretly brought them into my life via Wii. Then I burned them onto CD and my girls and I would sing them in the car. I actually have fond memories of that painful time. I think those two songs got me through the holidays.

PieRat

you and weird used in the same sentence...naaaaahhhhh.

Jenny1232

The Smiths? Lily Allen? Not sure who these people are!!!! I guess if I wanted to go all anti-male, I could adopt some Fiona Apple. Perhaps the song, 'limp'!

PieRat

:rotfxko
LOL!

By the way the two songs you mentioned are good ones as well.


If you are even remotely familiar with that show "Charmed" that had allysa milano and the other 2 chicks in it, and they were like witches or genies or something....anyway...the theme song to that show is the smiths song I named above. But was a cool depressing song, way before charmed.

anti male??? Seriously...Alanis Morisettes "jagged little pill" Album. Women put that on...I run!!! LOL

gerryP

RE; Tom Petty "You got lucky Babe"

Arrogant? Truth isn't arrogant Jenny.

Jenny1232

Ahh, I used to LOVE Charmed. WB baby! That was my favorite show growing up!!!!!

Admittedly, I do really enjoy the jagged little pill album.

Jenny1232

Well, I think you just made me blush gerryp! ;-p

Thanks!

PieRat

*makes note......Runs!!!!

It is a good album, engineered, and produced really well too!

Anyway on a serious note. You are going through a grieving process. Just like a funeral, only instead of a human being. The death is the emotional ties, and feelings you had in the relationship. So it is going to hurt. It will not be forever though. "This too shall pass" is a good thing to remember when you start feeling down.

At the same time...Everytime I hear you contacted him I wanna scream
Because I believe just as much as it is like a funeral, in this case he is also like a drug, or alcohol, and to a degree you are addicted to him, and like an addiction, you can really never just "have one". If you are seriously trying to quit. Same thing with smoking. I could not just have "one". If I do I know I will have to go thru withdrawels and all again. I know I do not ever want to repeat that first week off of tobacco.

You need to detoxify yourself of the poison which is your ex, and leave it far behind. Everytime there is contact you are just dragging out all this misery. It is going to take longer the more you keep hima part of your life.

coffeedrinker

((oops))

redcrow

OMG- you need to break something! Go to kickboxing or throw tupperware. I am so sorry you're going through this. The guy makes me want to puke, for reals. He will wake up some day and truly regret his actions. Ah, people. We truly can't rely on each other for our happiness. Sad, but so true. Do you have good friends, who will help you? I agree with the people telling you to go through the emotions and not fight. I've had a hard time with the contact thing in the past, especially with the super abusive addict I was so sure was my soulmate a few years back. It all turned into a raging fight! You don't need to go there.

coffeedrinker

songs that are on my own "power" mix:

"there she goes" - by either the cranberries or sixpence none the richer.

i don't know, it just makes me feel like "yeah...there I go!"


also, "whole new you" by shawn colvin (this one's super duper)

PieRat

Good songs!!!

Especially There she goes. In an ironic twisted oxymoronic way it fits here if you know the true meaning behind the song.

wicked

eminem has a new one,

about recovery from addiction.

damn, what is the title? oh yeah, recovery!
love those angry young white man raps.

(bridge)

And I just can't keep living this way
So starting today, I'm breaking out of this cage
I'm standing up, Imma face my demons
I'm manning up, Imma hold my ground
I've had enough, now I'm so fed up
Time to put my life back together right now


(Hook)
I'm not afraid to take a stand
Everybody come take my hand
We'll walk this road together, through the storm
Whatever weather, cold or warm
Just let you know that, you're not alone
Holla if you feel that you've been down the same road


Beth

And Tom Petty has one that I loved when I first started recovery (still do love it)

Refugee.

You dont have to live like a refugee.


And Breakdown, in that song I think of Toms voice as my HP telling me to hand it over.
breakdown is alright.

wicked

oops, double post.

Hurtingbad

This song made me cry uncontrollably in the car the other day.

REM, Losing my religion.

It summed up my relationship perfectly.

Oh, life is bigger
It's bigger than you
And you are not me
The lengths that I will go to
The distance in your eyes
Oh no, I've said too much
I set it up

(chorus)
That's me in the corner
That's me in the spotlight, I'm
Losing my religion
Trying to keep up with you
And I don't know if I can do it
Oh no, I've said too much
I haven't said enough
I thought that I heard you laughing
I thought that I heard you sing
I think I thought I saw you try

Every whisper
Of every waking hour I'm
Choosing my confessions
Trying to keep an eye on you
Like a hurt lost and blinded fool, fool
Oh no, I've said too much
I set it up
Consider this
Consider this
The hint of the century
Consider this
The slip that brought me
To my knees failed
What if all these fantasies
Come flailing around
Now I've said too much
I thought that I heard you laughing
I thought that I heard you sing
I think I thought I saw you try

But that was just a dream
That was just a dream

(repeat chorus)

But that was just a dream
Try, cry, why try?
That was just a dream
Just a dream, just a dream
Dream

Jenny - I am a man! And so is my Ex! That's why he gives lapdances

PieRat

Classic choice!
Add "Every breath you take" by The Police. Both powerful songs dealing with the same issue.

EDIT: I will definitely go off tanget in this thread, so warning. Music is a favorite subject.

Jenny1232

Awesome! Love you guys! I've heard Eminems new album is awesome... I will have to listen to that song and see how I like it.

Coffeedrinker, you made me laugh out loud with, "i don't know, it just makes me feel like "yeah...there I go!""

Of what songs I do know, those were great choices! Looks like I have a lot of catching up to do with other songs!

Redcrow, I've considered kickboxing, or something of that nature! I don't believe anyone here gets a good vibe from my loser ex (um, I feel really bad even saying that). I'm doubting he'll ever realize his own issues... just don't see it happening.

Fortunately, I have a TON of friends. Well, enough! I'm surrounded by healthy people, who care about me, make me laugh, make me feel good about myself, and encourage me to move forward with my life. For that, I am very grateful. I have reconnected with so many lost friends in the past two months, it's wonderful!

wicked

PieRat!

wrapped around my finger!
mephistophiless? is not my name...
love sting, the police.
off topic again!

PieRat

wicked

Yep, and I will admit, I have a wicked crush on him, still.
sigh.......
all these years....