ksumm77

It all goes back to the Stages of Change. This can be helpful in understanding addiction and other behaviors. People can acknowledge they have a problem, but not be in the place to change that behavior.

The Stages of Change

* Precontemplation (Not yet acknowledging that there is a problem behavior that needs to be changed)
* Contemplation (Acknowledging that there is a problem but not yet ready or sure of wanting to make a change)
* Preparation/Determination (Getting ready to change)
* Action (Changing behavior)
* Maintenance (Maintaining the behavior change)
* Relapse (Returning to older behaviors and abandoning the new changes)

ReadyToHelp

Peace, I love the way you bring it back to us. In my whirlwind of "what if I did this", at some point I would say - "This is who he is. This is what he has presented to you as a man, a partner, and a future husband. Is this what you want?"

There are no options on how he can be changed. The option is - "Do you want this or not?"

I love that moment of realization.

Ready.