And one more curious question....
And one more curious question....
I have been noticing lately that my AH has a need for me to notice every little things he might say, do, or wear...and acknowledge that in some way. For instance today he bought a grey collared shirt for work and he came out I guess wanted me to say how great he looked - but honestly it was just a polo shirt.....??? Little things he wants compliments for etc.......I have not noticed this neediness before...is this common?
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I think such conversation is very common in recovering alcoholics. We are starting new life, everything is new to us. I still check my face in bathroom how my face change before and after sobriety. 
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my xabf told me once shortly after getting sober, that he would appreciate little positive feedback comments every once in awhile, if i notice something good - that it would mean a lot to him. i think balance - the validation of the good efforts, but also don't act like they walk on water all of a sudden.
do what you're comfortable with - it should be genuine. wonder if you've got a lot of resentment (normal)
do what you're comfortable with - it should be genuine. wonder if you've got a lot of resentment (normal)
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