Child Abuse and Addictions
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Child Abuse and Addictions
I believe this may be a touchy subject but I will approach it with ease.
Do you think active addicts who are severely dysfunctional, abusive, out of reality, not working, drinking, doping, driving drunk should be charged with child abuse.
I ask because a woman I know is seeing this seriously insane addict who has raised 3 other women's kids and helped raised this woman's kids. She just called to tell me of another incident and I feel like driving over there and castrating him.
This guy passes out while cooking, has not worked in years, steals, hits her in front of the kids, brings druggies home, is into some sick porn and many other messed up behaviors. My friend is not an addict. But allows her ABF to act this way around her kids.
One of this woman's son's has already been in jail 3 times and he's only 19.
The people should be treated with the same rules as those parents who physical abuse their kids. But it almost seems taboo to talk about how addiction is abuse.
This topic makes me really angry since you see these poor innocent kids having their lives damaged for good by abusive adults who have no regard for anyone but themselves. This also happens with the "functional" addicts as well
I also think that any woman who lets her kids be raised by a out of control addict also needs to be charged with abuse.
arghhhhhh!
Do you think active addicts who are severely dysfunctional, abusive, out of reality, not working, drinking, doping, driving drunk should be charged with child abuse.
I ask because a woman I know is seeing this seriously insane addict who has raised 3 other women's kids and helped raised this woman's kids. She just called to tell me of another incident and I feel like driving over there and castrating him.
This guy passes out while cooking, has not worked in years, steals, hits her in front of the kids, brings druggies home, is into some sick porn and many other messed up behaviors. My friend is not an addict. But allows her ABF to act this way around her kids.
One of this woman's son's has already been in jail 3 times and he's only 19.
The people should be treated with the same rules as those parents who physical abuse their kids. But it almost seems taboo to talk about how addiction is abuse.
This topic makes me really angry since you see these poor innocent kids having their lives damaged for good by abusive adults who have no regard for anyone but themselves. This also happens with the "functional" addicts as well
I also think that any woman who lets her kids be raised by a out of control addict also needs to be charged with abuse.
arghhhhhh!
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Originally Posted by Summerpeach 
I also think that any woman who lets her kids be raised by a out of control addict also needs to be charged with abuse.
arghhhhhh!
arghhhhhh!
because my ex AH did help me raise our 5 daughters - his and mine.
sometimes he was in a good place - sometimes he wasn't.
I was too affected by the disease of alcoholism/addiction - I was raised in it and I so wanted better for my girls - but somehow I ended up right in the same place.
I thought I was sheltering them from as much as possible - but I didn't - i know that now.
Once I got into Al-Anon and sought recovery for ME - I saw the truth that abuse doesn't have to just be physical - but you know we don't always have the support of places like SoberRecovery or AL-Anon, etc. to help us out of an abusive situation.
So as much as i hurt for those children - I hurt for the mom that may not even know HOW to break out of that circle of insanity.
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Some of the laws (or absence of laws) that we have in our society are because we don't want to deter treatment or punish victims. For example, most states don't prosecute women who drink or use drugs during pregnancy, because we don't want women who would seek help or prenatal care to be deterred from doing so because of fear of prosecution. We also don't prosecute the spouses of child abusers normally, because we want them to be able to seek help without fearing prosecution.
There are laws against neglect, which often goes hand-in-hand with alcoholism and drug addiction. CPS will step into a situation like the one you describe sometimes.
There are laws against neglect, which often goes hand-in-hand with alcoholism and drug addiction. CPS will step into a situation like the one you describe sometimes.
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I'll come back on this one .... but just to let you know I am acao who was abused, neglected and is severely emotionally damaged and hurting. I have so wanted my parents to be punished for my childhood. Once I came out of my denial, I couldn't quite believe that these things had actually happened to me. So I did some investigation and wow!!! laws do exist to protect children from abuse and neglect. My father should have been charged and my mother should have been charged for letting it happen. Why weren't they?
Take addiction, alcoholism or any other ...ism out of the equation - there are laws to protect children from abuse and neglect. In reality, people don't act, for whatever reason they don't act and children grow up into adults with issues and the abuse cycle continues. There is this myth out there that children are resilient, that they are young and strong, that it doesn't affect them as badly as it affects the adults, that given time they will forget and move on - ime, a load of b*ll.
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Take addiction, alcoholism or any other ...ism out of the equation - there are laws to protect children from abuse and neglect. In reality, people don't act, for whatever reason they don't act and children grow up into adults with issues and the abuse cycle continues. There is this myth out there that children are resilient, that they are young and strong, that it doesn't affect them as badly as it affects the adults, that given time they will forget and move on - ime, a load of b*ll.
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Uwanttoheal: very powerful share, thanks for that.
I think the fact that this topic is taboo is just as sickening to me as child abuse.
Addiction is such an ugly topic and most people like to keep it a secret.
I think the fact that this topic is taboo is just as sickening to me as child abuse.
Addiction is such an ugly topic and most people like to keep it a secret.
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