Passed a NLD test tonight *****!!
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Passed a NLD test tonight *****!!
NLD stands for No Longer a Doormat
BF stated he has a friend in the real estate business and they will partner to sell some houses.
And if he could use one of our rooms for the office
I wondered how it would feel like feeling uneasy in the apartment I pay for! I am glad to say it was a HORRIBLE feeling. Before it would have been a yucky EXCITED feeling of "helping out someone"!
I said No.
He said it was for our good, I said there were many other places.
I suggested they used said friend's home. He said "his wife wouldn't have a problem with that" so I said "then you got it solved".
He said it was too far away.
I said children walk miles for school day in many places and he can't drive 20 min? and asked him if he was a child or a man? if he thought money came without effort?
Point was taken and he said it was OK for me to say no. He will seek somewhere else, and I keep my mess and my lunch time and my home for myself.
I would have never thought feeling nauseated would feel great, LOL :ghug3
BF stated he has a friend in the real estate business and they will partner to sell some houses.
And if he could use one of our rooms for the office
I wondered how it would feel like feeling uneasy in the apartment I pay for! I am glad to say it was a HORRIBLE feeling. Before it would have been a yucky EXCITED feeling of "helping out someone"!
I said No.
He said it was for our good, I said there were many other places.
I suggested they used said friend's home. He said "his wife wouldn't have a problem with that" so I said "then you got it solved".
He said it was too far away.
I said children walk miles for school day in many places and he can't drive 20 min? and asked him if he was a child or a man? if he thought money came without effort?
Point was taken and he said it was OK for me to say no. He will seek somewhere else, and I keep my mess and my lunch time and my home for myself.
I would have never thought feeling nauseated would feel great, LOL :ghug3
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Originally Posted by TakingCharge999 
I would have never thought feeling nauseated would feel great...
AND, we have the right to do this.
This has been a big aha lesson for me, in my own path of recovery.
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Hahaha, good for you!
I took that test yesterday, and passed with flying colors as well! Someone tried to manipulate me into doing something I already told them I wasn't going to do. Man when I think about the old days, and how quickly i would have jumped and said "i'll help you out, even though I'm exhausted" I get sick to my stomach.
Is there like a gold star or something we can put next to our avatars?
I took that test yesterday, and passed with flying colors as well! Someone tried to manipulate me into doing something I already told them I wasn't going to do. Man when I think about the old days, and how quickly i would have jumped and said "i'll help you out, even though I'm exhausted" I get sick to my stomach.
Is there like a gold star or something we can put next to our avatars?
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