Another One Gone
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Another One Gone
My mom had picked up my grandma this weekend to get her out of the house since my Uncle has been drinking very heavily again lately...
She stayed for the weekend and helped me move all my stuff and when my mom dropped her back off....
they found him dead.
I had some conversations with him, just me and him...I asked him if he wanted to die in that house. He broke down and started to cry.
he has two sons, and his ex wife cheated on which caused him to spiral downwards again after x years of sobriety...she is pill popper and i am very concerned for these children. She living off welfare and his child support.
I doubt she will be putting them in therapy. She was engaged and that man shot and killed in killed himself several months ago. These poor kids are already headed down the wrong path ...smoking at 13 and an 8 year old.
I am doing okay, as I really saw this day coming. Its weird, I haven't cried yet....Its still sinking in....
The worst part is having to see my mom so sad. I am very nervous to see those kids on Wed. @ the funeral....
Everyone knows he's better off, but my mom feels slightly bad for leaving him there on Saturday.
She stayed for the weekend and helped me move all my stuff and when my mom dropped her back off....
they found him dead.
I had some conversations with him, just me and him...I asked him if he wanted to die in that house. He broke down and started to cry.
he has two sons, and his ex wife cheated on which caused him to spiral downwards again after x years of sobriety...she is pill popper and i am very concerned for these children. She living off welfare and his child support.
I doubt she will be putting them in therapy. She was engaged and that man shot and killed in killed himself several months ago. These poor kids are already headed down the wrong path ...smoking at 13 and an 8 year old.
I am doing okay, as I really saw this day coming. Its weird, I haven't cried yet....Its still sinking in....
The worst part is having to see my mom so sad. I am very nervous to see those kids on Wed. @ the funeral....
Everyone knows he's better off, but my mom feels slightly bad for leaving him there on Saturday.
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So sorry Mary. It will hit you in time and I feel your healthy perspective will help you through this loss. My prayers are with your family.
I marvel at our higher power's way of intervening and moving us out of harms way as long as we let it happen. It seems you're grandma allowed that for herself and did not have to be home. She will instead have the warm memory of being with you.
I hope your mother can find peace in what was meant to be.
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I marvel at our higher power's way of intervening and moving us out of harms way as long as we let it happen. It seems you're grandma allowed that for herself and did not have to be home. She will instead have the warm memory of being with you.
I hope your mother can find peace in what was meant to be.
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My mate and best friend's step-brother, two days into my first 'real' attempt at getting clean, got found by an estate agent...dead. He left two beautiful kids parentless.
Heart goes out to you, Mary.
My mate's kids are rediscovering their smiles right now. It'll never be the same smile, but just to see a smile, well, one day at a time, mate.
-Tsu
Heart goes out to you, Mary.
My mate's kids are rediscovering their smiles right now. It'll never be the same smile, but just to see a smile, well, one day at a time, mate.
-Tsu
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you guys are all so wonderful. thank you. still waiting on toxicology, his liver may have just given out. we're pretty sure he died right after my mom picked my grandma up and they did feel kind of bad about that.
But I enthusiastically reassured them if it wasn't this weekend, it was probably going to be the next. Some people have different levels of addiction...and this man was 46 and had been suffering and battling for quite some time.
Unfortunately his two young boys have an unfit, drug abusing mother as well. They also witnessed her fiance die this past year of a suicide..so I am just praying that they get therapy or can handle the trauma.
It was sad when it finally did hit. But he is much better off, and talked about his funeral all the time. I wasn't mad at first, but when the very immediate family few of us walked in to see the coffin for the first time. I was pissed he went out the way he did. I told him he was going to die in that house. lol. He also tried to get me to buy booze will on his tether. My aunt said I did a good job being a friend to him. Not enabling and not judging either. I would stop by sometimes and just hang out with him. He was incredibly lonely. Incredibly sad and lonely and sometimes I had to fight back tears to talk to him, but I did it for him.
And I have all of you to thank for the ability and knowledge to be able to have done that.
But I enthusiastically reassured them if it wasn't this weekend, it was probably going to be the next. Some people have different levels of addiction...and this man was 46 and had been suffering and battling for quite some time.
Unfortunately his two young boys have an unfit, drug abusing mother as well. They also witnessed her fiance die this past year of a suicide..so I am just praying that they get therapy or can handle the trauma.
It was sad when it finally did hit. But he is much better off, and talked about his funeral all the time. I wasn't mad at first, but when the very immediate family few of us walked in to see the coffin for the first time. I was pissed he went out the way he did. I told him he was going to die in that house. lol. He also tried to get me to buy booze will on his tether. My aunt said I did a good job being a friend to him. Not enabling and not judging either. I would stop by sometimes and just hang out with him. He was incredibly lonely. Incredibly sad and lonely and sometimes I had to fight back tears to talk to him, but I did it for him.
And I have all of you to thank for the ability and knowledge to be able to have done that.
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