Barely avoided being hit on today
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Barely avoided being hit on today
Ya, so... I'm at Macaroni Grill getting a gift card for our Administrative Assistant. The hostess directed me to the bar for the purchase. I'm sitting at the bar not more than 3.5 minutes when I hear the guy on the other side tell the bartender he wanted to buy me a drink. It was only 5:30, nobody else was at the bar except for a couple, plus he pointed in my direction. I did one of those; "who me?" things in my mind. He was good looking, and well dressed, too! Wow, I must look better than the reflection in the mirror looks to me, even at 40lbs over weight an with no exercise in umteen years. Yikes!
So, I quick like a bunny bought the gift card and scooted the heck outta there before some bar guy had a chance to hit on me. Ya... don't need any of THAT in my life. But it was WAY cool!
I went from my first husband almost without skipping a beat to my second husband from whom I am now divorcing. So I've been out of the singles scene for about 22 years. Guess I have to learn a new skill. LOL! Ol' Tigger got a cheap thrill today.
So, I quick like a bunny bought the gift card and scooted the heck outta there before some bar guy had a chance to hit on me. Ya... don't need any of THAT in my life. But it was WAY cool!
I went from my first husband almost without skipping a beat to my second husband from whom I am now divorcing. So I've been out of the singles scene for about 22 years. Guess I have to learn a new skill. LOL! Ol' Tigger got a cheap thrill today.
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I laughed!! Yeah funny how we start to think like 'who me'. But good on you, so nice to hear about your day. It made mine haha.
I have never seen myself as an attractive woman, at least not one who would be picked up. But my hub came home last night and said. "I bumped into an old friend of yours today" Who, I thought.
A guy I worked with a couple of years ago who I really respected. Apparently he said "Jo was a dynamic, beautiful woman" and you know what, I walked around all night saying to myself, 'dynamic? dynamic? Just thought Id share my cheap thrill with you. haha Jo
I have never seen myself as an attractive woman, at least not one who would be picked up. But my hub came home last night and said. "I bumped into an old friend of yours today" Who, I thought.
A guy I worked with a couple of years ago who I really respected. Apparently he said "Jo was a dynamic, beautiful woman" and you know what, I walked around all night saying to myself, 'dynamic? dynamic? Just thought Id share my cheap thrill with you. haha Jo
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Wow! Must have been something in the air today.
I had someone that I work with tell me he thought I was attractive and wondered if we could get together outside of work to get to know each other some time. Of course, the last part of that that I hear was "attractive". All I could think was "who, me?" Obviously he doesn't see the "me" I see when I look in the mirror at the end of the day.
Then on my way home from work I stopped at the store. Had someone say hello so politely I said hello back. He asked how I was, jokingly I said ready for the weekend. He asked if he could be part of my weekend...maybe just a drink or two. Ha!
Then when I was checking out, standing in the lane someone else politely started a conversation which ended with "maybe I could get your number and we can talk some more another time".
All I could think about was self-esteem. Of course, I turned all of these guys' invitations down, but it really made me think about myself. I don't like what I see when I look at myself and I'm only recently starting to really hear myself when I speak. But all of this made me realize that maybe things are as bad as I think they are because of the way I interpret them.
Puts a whole new meaning to "it's only as bad as you make it".
I had someone that I work with tell me he thought I was attractive and wondered if we could get together outside of work to get to know each other some time. Of course, the last part of that that I hear was "attractive". All I could think was "who, me?" Obviously he doesn't see the "me" I see when I look in the mirror at the end of the day.
Then on my way home from work I stopped at the store. Had someone say hello so politely I said hello back. He asked how I was, jokingly I said ready for the weekend. He asked if he could be part of my weekend...maybe just a drink or two. Ha!
Then when I was checking out, standing in the lane someone else politely started a conversation which ended with "maybe I could get your number and we can talk some more another time".
All I could think about was self-esteem. Of course, I turned all of these guys' invitations down, but it really made me think about myself. I don't like what I see when I look at myself and I'm only recently starting to really hear myself when I speak. But all of this made me realize that maybe things are as bad as I think they are because of the way I interpret them.
Puts a whole new meaning to "it's only as bad as you make it".
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I know what you mean totally! I realized no matter who gives me a smile or a look, I literally put my head down and run the other way! I am so used to being put down and ignored I dont even know what to do when someone pays attention to me..But we forgeet even overweight, we are still attractive! I am down 25 lbs and cant wait to lose the last 20. Good for you though!
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LOL Lulu I noticed that today too!! This guy this morning that I work with, we were riding in a truck when he said it so there wasn't anywhere for me to turn and run to. I went stupid! I was like "duh, duh, duh". I didn't have the FAINTEST idea how to respond!! And then I was almost embarrassed the rest of the day for turning into this goofy little school girl.
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Walk around with a Mona Lisa smile, and tantalise those around you....or have a big, wide grin all over your face. You learnt something new today, and proved that those who have put you down have LIED tor you. Who are you gonna believe?
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LoL! yesterday a neighbor that gives mesotherapy sessions arrived home. I didn't remember telling her which apartment was mine as usually I go to her place. She told me "I asked the policeman for the thin woman with a doll's face" and I was like huh?
Thin?
Doll's face???????
Yesterday I was at work and my glance met XABF's accidentally. I could tell he was surprised. This fed my ego... also because I have huge dark circles below my eyes as allergy meds give me insomnia! so its like he wondered what kept me up at night... lol if he knew I watch Americas next top model, write in SR and WORK at 4 am. LoL.
Good for.. OTHERS for recognizing how great and wonderful and interesting we are
Something I need to work on is keeping my head high, I have noticed I am usually staring at the floor
Thin?
Doll's face???????
Yesterday I was at work and my glance met XABF's accidentally. I could tell he was surprised. This fed my ego... also because I have huge dark circles below my eyes as allergy meds give me insomnia! so its like he wondered what kept me up at night... lol if he knew I watch Americas next top model, write in SR and WORK at 4 am. LoL.
Good for.. OTHERS for recognizing how great and wonderful and interesting we are
Something I need to work on is keeping my head high, I have noticed I am usually staring at the floor
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I can almost hear Helen Reddy singing; "I am woman, Hear me roar!" in the background as I read other peoples' experiences lately.
It's a lesson to us all. Here we've been putting up with the alcoholic's crap, in part because we think we're not good enough for a decent Sig-Oth, when all along it seems we're far more attractive, both physically and in terms of personality, than we ever thought we were. Let's break out of this vicious cycle, ladies and gentlemen, realize that we're wonderful, and behave accordingly when we're out there putting our lives back together!
It's a lesson to us all. Here we've been putting up with the alcoholic's crap, in part because we think we're not good enough for a decent Sig-Oth, when all along it seems we're far more attractive, both physically and in terms of personality, than we ever thought we were. Let's break out of this vicious cycle, ladies and gentlemen, realize that we're wonderful, and behave accordingly when we're out there putting our lives back together!
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all I can say is: girls, next time you look at that mirror, look a bit closer.
There is something beautiful there, for sure.
I've never lost track of that in all these painful years with my AH. Even in the worst moments, when crying my eyes out if I saw myself in the mirror, I liked myself... It's funny really, I'd lock up myself in the bathroom and cry while my world was collapsing, and still at the some point I'd realize I'm thinking well, girl, you don't look too bad
I'm not narcistic or anything, I don't think I'm the prettiest person there, but never stopped liking myself with all my shortcomings
There is something beautiful there, for sure.
I've never lost track of that in all these painful years with my AH. Even in the worst moments, when crying my eyes out if I saw myself in the mirror, I liked myself... It's funny really, I'd lock up myself in the bathroom and cry while my world was collapsing, and still at the some point I'd realize I'm thinking well, girl, you don't look too bad
I'm not narcistic or anything, I don't think I'm the prettiest person there, but never stopped liking myself with all my shortcomings
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I like this post, it makes me laugh. For years, Ive felt ugly, even to the point where I wouldnt go to the shop, because I felt insecure.
I found out my partner was looking at porn internet sites, well, that upset things a bit (you understand
)
Well, in the bakery the other day, a local customer who comes in quite a bit was standing there telling me, how he had just broken up with his wife but put in a few kind words of how attractive he thought I was. It took my partner no more than 5 seconds to come marching down and stand by me. (so to let him know he was still around).
Amazing hey, when its on the other foot. I smuggly said to him - well you'd better watch out then, they're still after me even if I am an old chookie babe.
I found out my partner was looking at porn internet sites, well, that upset things a bit (you understand
)Well, in the bakery the other day, a local customer who comes in quite a bit was standing there telling me, how he had just broken up with his wife but put in a few kind words of how attractive he thought I was. It took my partner no more than 5 seconds to come marching down and stand by me. (so to let him know he was still around).
Amazing hey, when its on the other foot. I smuggly said to him - well you'd better watch out then, they're still after me even if I am an old chookie babe.
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