just need to vent again..to talk to someone
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just need to vent again..to talk to someone
It was a lovely afternoon so after work i grab a beer turn on some Metallica and sit in the backyard..alone as usual cause husband has to go elsewhere for a beer. He comes home a few hours later and announces he is hungry so I served dinner I had made. I hadn't even put my dishes down when he announces he has to go down to his buddies to talk about fising..apparently the telephone doesnt work for that..and he says he won't be long. He just calls from a totally different place with a party going on...I can here voices from both sexes in the background. He says he's calling to tell me he has the dog..no effing sh*t...like i didn't realize the dog was gone? and to let me know where he is. Geeze..thanks for that. I am sitting at home byself and he's at a party. Where did my life take such a brutal turn? I am so sick of being by myself...I go out regularily but all my friends are married and are usually with their husbands unless there are plans or a special occasion. I wish I could meet some single people I guess so I can do things on a whim...or start dating again!!!
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I honestly don't know...I am in a weird place right now. I am as ready as I have ever been to leave...the actual moving and getting my own place is scary. I have started packing some boxes and saving some money. I think I am just angry and sad that things got like this. When did we start living separate lives? It happened gradually I guess. Am I wrong to think that a spouse should want the other around...I don't think I am that embarrassing to bring to a party...( i know I am not at all) I am not even afraid of being alone...I feel sure I will meet someone else eventually that will respect and enjoy my company. I called my sister to see if I could go crash at her place but there was no answer.
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Thanks, kitty. Wish I could claim responsibility for it...I found it here. LOL!
But yeah, I think it's a good question, too, if for no other reason, it makes the person think about themselves for a bit, and maybe, they haven't done that in a long time.
But yeah, I think it's a good question, too, if for no other reason, it makes the person think about themselves for a bit, and maybe, they haven't done that in a long time.
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Well, think about it, justsomegirl. You're already spending a great deal of time alone, then he drops by, eats dinner, then takes the dog to a party. I mean, he can hire domestic help if that's all he wants. You deserve better.
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I don't know how long you have been married but I don't think that you just pack up and move. Have you tried talking about it? He might just have no idea...remember he's a guy and sometimes they are rather stupid. Been married to mine for almost 28 years and they just don't pay attention to stuff. Good Luck.
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We have been together 10 years married for almost 7 years...and we are talked out. This has been going on for about 5 years now and things get better for a while then worse again...the worse times keep getting worse. hees home gotta go
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Originally Posted by justsomegirl 
When did we start living separate lives? It happened gradually I guess.
I thought of us
Hard to talk these days
Did we change
Or were we strangers all along
Tell me what caused us to turn away
There's a wall of silence
Miles across
A wall between us
Holding back
Holding back our loss
I moved ahead
Thinking you'd be there
But it changed
And now we're strangers to our past
How did I lose you along the way
(Wall of Silence, October Project)
Just keep moving forward, JSG. One step at a time, you'll get there.
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Not a happy time for you, and not my idea of a marriage.
Lack of communication is bad enough, alcoholism the same, but........
He left you, his wife, home alone and took the dog to a party?????
Have you considered letting him sleep in the dog kennel from now on?
Get a doggie bowl with your AH's name on it.
I know you feel hurt, angry and have had it up to the neck, and honestly I would be homicidal by now.....but let these feelings propel you into caring for yourself, and if you are planning on getting out already....this episode should push you out the door.
I will keep you in my mind, heart and prayers.
God bless
Lack of communication is bad enough, alcoholism the same, but........
He left you, his wife, home alone and took the dog to a party?????
Have you considered letting him sleep in the dog kennel from now on?
Get a doggie bowl with your AH's name on it.
I know you feel hurt, angry and have had it up to the neck, and honestly I would be homicidal by now.....but let these feelings propel you into caring for yourself, and if you are planning on getting out already....this episode should push you out the door.
I will keep you in my mind, heart and prayers.
God bless
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