Hey guys, a lil update
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So sorry to hear about your difficult situation. I will never forget the day when my AH was finally diagnosed with liver disease after decades on nonstop drinking ... and knowing he was incapable of sobriety even with such a grim diagnosis.
Even though he had a number of serious health related issues before, there had been no indication of liver disease until it was well advanced. Sadly he was so deep in his addiction he still could not stop drinking. It was just one more reminder as to how powerful this addiction is ... knowing he continued to chose alcohol over any chance of survival. It is truly an amazingly cruel, tragic and baffling affliction.
It is hopeful sign that your hubby has found the strength to stop drinking. May you both find the strength and serenity to get through the coming months.
Even though he had a number of serious health related issues before, there had been no indication of liver disease until it was well advanced. Sadly he was so deep in his addiction he still could not stop drinking. It was just one more reminder as to how powerful this addiction is ... knowing he continued to chose alcohol over any chance of survival. It is truly an amazingly cruel, tragic and baffling affliction.
It is hopeful sign that your hubby has found the strength to stop drinking. May you both find the strength and serenity to get through the coming months.
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Post from Jadmack: (( Easter is the message of forgiveness, of hope and purpose. It’s the message of being put right with God, of comfort for those whose heart is aching, empty or confused. It’s the message of peace and total love. I wish these blessings to you and your Ah. ))
Post from Leah: ((Jad, mate, who do I forgive? My father for bashing me black and blue when I was a kid? My mother, who let him do it, and still reminds me of how useless I am to this very day? My ex husband who thought it was fun throwing empty stubbies at my head watching to see if they would smash? Well, I cant forgive. I can be me, and I can be proud of me.
I raised an awesome, successful son, and I did that with love. I dont have to forgive any ***** that hurt me, I can hold my head high, and **** on them all. Love leah))
My dear, the last thing I intended was to hurt you.
The wishes for you and your husband were for blessings of hope, peace, comfort and love to be yours, in the midst of all you are going thru now, and for the future.
For me, forgiveness is part of my Easter. I ask forgiveness for all I have done, and help to forgive where I need to, so that I don't carry burdens into the new season. I might add, that I have a couple of people and events in my heart that are not yet, and may never be resolved for me. So be it.
I knew nothing of how you were treated in the past, but I can understand you feeling as you do towards those who mistreated and abused you.
For your parents and X, they were and seem to be very sick and pathetic people, who could not appreciate what they had in you.
That is their great loss.
For raising your son in love, and being the woman you are, you deserve to be proud of yourself and your achievements.
I had someone who could raise my temper just thinking about them, and I let it fester in me for years. I just have not been able to forgive them.
I finally handed them over to God...Told Him, "you have them from now on, I don't want to hang on to this anymore."
Worked for me, as haven't bothered about them or what they did since.
I have you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers, and with love I wish you comfort, strength and thousands of hugs.
God bless
Post from Leah: ((Jad, mate, who do I forgive? My father for bashing me black and blue when I was a kid? My mother, who let him do it, and still reminds me of how useless I am to this very day? My ex husband who thought it was fun throwing empty stubbies at my head watching to see if they would smash? Well, I cant forgive. I can be me, and I can be proud of me.
I raised an awesome, successful son, and I did that with love. I dont have to forgive any ***** that hurt me, I can hold my head high, and **** on them all. Love leah))
My dear, the last thing I intended was to hurt you.
The wishes for you and your husband were for blessings of hope, peace, comfort and love to be yours, in the midst of all you are going thru now, and for the future.
For me, forgiveness is part of my Easter. I ask forgiveness for all I have done, and help to forgive where I need to, so that I don't carry burdens into the new season. I might add, that I have a couple of people and events in my heart that are not yet, and may never be resolved for me. So be it.
I knew nothing of how you were treated in the past, but I can understand you feeling as you do towards those who mistreated and abused you.
For your parents and X, they were and seem to be very sick and pathetic people, who could not appreciate what they had in you.
That is their great loss.
For raising your son in love, and being the woman you are, you deserve to be proud of yourself and your achievements.
I had someone who could raise my temper just thinking about them, and I let it fester in me for years. I just have not been able to forgive them.
I finally handed them over to God...Told Him, "you have them from now on, I don't want to hang on to this anymore."
Worked for me, as haven't bothered about them or what they did since.
I have you and your husband in my thoughts and prayers, and with love I wish you comfort, strength and thousands of hugs.
God bless
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Cash....good to hear from you. Am so sorry for your situation. I am glad in the midst of all this difficulty that you are looking after yourself.....you sound strong. positive and most importatntly realistic. I haven't been on here much recently due to work and family commitments so am just catching up with all the posts!
Aweda....so sorry for your loss. Hope you are taking care of you at this difficult time....love and support heading your way.
Sending love and support. Keep posting. SR is here for you...and for all of us...through the good and bad and down right disasterous times!! Thank God for SR.
Take it easy everyone....look after you! Phiz
Aweda....so sorry for your loss. Hope you are taking care of you at this difficult time....love and support heading your way.
Sending love and support. Keep posting. SR is here for you...and for all of us...through the good and bad and down right disasterous times!! Thank God for SR.
Take it easy everyone....look after you! Phiz
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aww Jad, you didnt offend me, I hope I didnt offend you. Im the estranged daughter, I have nothing to do with my father, and tolerate my mother. It hurts, I get sad and angry, and I also get jealous when i see "Happy families" in my town playing in the park. Thats the dark side of me, the hurting, weaker side. My son flew home today, he is working up north in the mines. He also has a chef certificate. He has travelled all of Australia, and half of USA, he is just 21. He is my pride and joy. He has one week home, then he flies back out to the mines. He has gone out tonight with friends.
Yesterday I drove hubby to the city, and we saw the liver specialist. He cannot get on the list until six months sober. In the meantime, he was to be admitted to hospital to drain his stomach again for the ascites. He has refused. Its the pain I think of the procedure that scares him. So what can i do? You can lead a horse to water, but... that saying.
Hey phiz, we will catch up soon. Hope all is well for you mate. Thanks gold for your hugs. Its just one day at a time, and see what happens. Jad,I love ya
Yesterday I drove hubby to the city, and we saw the liver specialist. He cannot get on the list until six months sober. In the meantime, he was to be admitted to hospital to drain his stomach again for the ascites. He has refused. Its the pain I think of the procedure that scares him. So what can i do? You can lead a horse to water, but... that saying.
Hey phiz, we will catch up soon. Hope all is well for you mate. Thanks gold for your hugs. Its just one day at a time, and see what happens. Jad,I love ya
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Bless you lass, I wasn't offended, but worried, as it seemed you had disappeared on me.
I don't know which mining area he's in, but I may have walked past your son if he came to the Mackay region. There are mines aplenty up here, and miners from all over. It is why the housing is so dear, and rentals out of question for ordinary folks.
Your poor husband, as I know a friend hated that draining procedure, and it was a battle to get him to do it.
Oh if only they knew, as they sit at the bar or in their recliners, slugging away at the love of their life, the booze......just what that B**ch has waiting for them, as thanks for their loyalty to her. Miserable illness, and agonising pain for them and more for their loved ones,.....if they are still around, that is.
Your parents are to be pitied, for being as they were lost them the love, respect and company of their daughter and her family. I wonder if they have the slightest idea just what they could have had, if they had been different. Their loss.
I dread to think of being without my mob, and get such joy from them all.
I will up the prayers for you both, and my Sunday Mass will be for those in SR who are in desperate need, and of course you.
God bless
I don't know which mining area he's in, but I may have walked past your son if he came to the Mackay region. There are mines aplenty up here, and miners from all over. It is why the housing is so dear, and rentals out of question for ordinary folks.
Your poor husband, as I know a friend hated that draining procedure, and it was a battle to get him to do it.
Oh if only they knew, as they sit at the bar or in their recliners, slugging away at the love of their life, the booze......just what that B**ch has waiting for them, as thanks for their loyalty to her. Miserable illness, and agonising pain for them and more for their loved ones,.....if they are still around, that is.
Your parents are to be pitied, for being as they were lost them the love, respect and company of their daughter and her family. I wonder if they have the slightest idea just what they could have had, if they had been different. Their loss.
I dread to think of being without my mob, and get such joy from them all.
I will up the prayers for you both, and my Sunday Mass will be for those in SR who are in desperate need, and of course you.
God bless
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Join Date: Feb 2010
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he is in Port Hedland WA. at the mines. Im in SA. I didnt mean to disappear, just didnt get a chance to get back online until tonight. You hit the nail on the head, if only they know the russian roulette they are playing with the booze. Thanks for your encouraging comments re my family. My son is in their lives, I never bad talked about them to him, nor stop them from seeing him. That ascites drain must be painful, even when they draw blood, he is black and blue, and they have to wrap him up cos he bleeds so much. I am going to give him tomorrow, and then if he still wont do it, i might have to make him. His guts looks like he is going to explode, no bull, I never seen a guts so big before. How his skinny legs can support that i dunno. Thanks for your prayers. You are such a caring person, God bless you too.
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