I attract psychos
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I attract psychos
I can't sleep. Tonight I chaired a panel that I organized and promoted, before a big rally tomorrow, and afterwords during networking, I was basically stalked by this crazy guy. He followed me around saying and doing obnoxious crap like making "jokes" by yelling at me. Aggressive. No boundaries, in my face and space all the time.
I want to be confrontational and tell him to get out of my space. Or say, "you're a freaking jerk get away from me." But I just move away. He watches me and follows me. i hate it and my reaction to him is very defensive. I feel threatened by him.
My ex-A- business partner was there too, in the background, I'd see him far away and then he'd disappear. which is fine with me.
tomorrow there will be 5,000 people to deal and interact with, but the networking and after parties will be this small group again I think. Maybe he'll leave and i won't have to deal with him
But I am wondering what the heck it is about me that attracts these guys.
or is it that this is how some folks are and it doesn't bother other people like it does me.
I feel like he is challenging me, cause he stares at me, as if to see what my reaction is.
It might be as simple as he's just nuts and wants to hang around me. I'm overwhelmed with people after these events anyway because I"m working, handing out papers, listening to peoples stories. Sometimes I have to just walk away from while they're talking because I'm suppose to go do somethng else. Folks demand my time is what I"m trying to say.
I think its' up to me to keep myself sane and away from people who would waste it. I've seen other leaders in the movement just excuse themselves and walk away from someone dominating their time, and i try itwh this guy but he keeps following me.
what. the. hell.
I want to be confrontational and tell him to get out of my space. Or say, "you're a freaking jerk get away from me." But I just move away. He watches me and follows me. i hate it and my reaction to him is very defensive. I feel threatened by him.
My ex-A- business partner was there too, in the background, I'd see him far away and then he'd disappear. which is fine with me.
tomorrow there will be 5,000 people to deal and interact with, but the networking and after parties will be this small group again I think. Maybe he'll leave and i won't have to deal with him
But I am wondering what the heck it is about me that attracts these guys.
or is it that this is how some folks are and it doesn't bother other people like it does me.
I feel like he is challenging me, cause he stares at me, as if to see what my reaction is.
It might be as simple as he's just nuts and wants to hang around me. I'm overwhelmed with people after these events anyway because I"m working, handing out papers, listening to peoples stories. Sometimes I have to just walk away from while they're talking because I'm suppose to go do somethng else. Folks demand my time is what I"m trying to say.
I think its' up to me to keep myself sane and away from people who would waste it. I've seen other leaders in the movement just excuse themselves and walk away from someone dominating their time, and i try itwh this guy but he keeps following me.
what. the. hell.
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Haha... yeah. I get it.
A therapist once told me that if you filled a stadium full of people and put one person like us and one person like them (predator and prey, if you will) in there, we will find each other. Until we change who WE are, THEY will continue to find us.
I tell people that I am Fly Paper for Freaks.
It makes for interesting nights on the town... so there's that.
A therapist once told me that if you filled a stadium full of people and put one person like us and one person like them (predator and prey, if you will) in there, we will find each other. Until we change who WE are, THEY will continue to find us.
I tell people that I am Fly Paper for Freaks.
It makes for interesting nights on the town... so there's that.
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Don't you think my user name here on SR says it all? 
I tell people that some people are general practitioners in misery - they will attract anyone with enough problems to make their life hell. I, on the other hand, was a specialist - I only attracted/was attracted to homeless/lost alcoholics whose fathers were also alcoholics.
Happy to say I have retired from practice. Haven't had so much as a cuddle from anyone in almost 4 years, but I am trying to learn to love differently now.
Ya can't argue with crazy so don't bother. Just keep walking away.
I tell people that some people are general practitioners in misery - they will attract anyone with enough problems to make their life hell. I, on the other hand, was a specialist - I only attracted/was attracted to homeless/lost alcoholics whose fathers were also alcoholics.
Happy to say I have retired from practice. Haven't had so much as a cuddle from anyone in almost 4 years, but I am trying to learn to love differently now.
Ya can't argue with crazy so don't bother. Just keep walking away.
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Well Transform, my hopes for a nutter free weekend just blew up in my face.
I was thinking of course about your nutter work colleague keeping out of your way, not knowing of your magnetic appeal to all nutters in your vicinity, where-ever you are.
Hmmm, OK, back to the drawing board as I give this tricky question some deep thought.
Hope the rest of the rally is better for you. Maybe nutter 1 will get in a tangle with nutter 2, and both will be carted off to clink by the cops....or am I really scraping the bottom of my wish list barrel?
God bless
I was thinking of course about your nutter work colleague keeping out of your way, not knowing of your magnetic appeal to all nutters in your vicinity, where-ever you are.
Hmmm, OK, back to the drawing board as I give this tricky question some deep thought.
Hope the rest of the rally is better for you. Maybe nutter 1 will get in a tangle with nutter 2, and both will be carted off to clink by the cops....or am I really scraping the bottom of my wish list barrel?
God bless
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I have gone from a freak magnet to a freak repellent. I know you can too.
I don't know what used to attract them to me (probably because I did not yet know how to be direct and confrontational in a dignified way). I also used to allow them in my life, try to be nice to them, because I thought I had to - as with your ex partner.
But these days freaks find that approaching me is like approaching a wolverine, or a big soft tiger. Looking oh-so-pettable until they get sliced into pork chops like on a bugs bunny cartoon. I think it is that I am more willing to tell them outright that they're making me uncomfortable and are unwelcome in my space. They don't like that, and they grumble off and make snotty comments to their snotty friends in dark corners of the room. Whaaaah.
This is just one guy, coming at you out of a demographic which (if I had to guess) has a number of people living non-traditional, non-conformist lifestyles. It doesn't make you a magnet. And anyway: how do you think he would've reacted if you'd gotten right up into his grill and asked you to stay away from you?
Worth practicing your own way of deflecting and then detaching from freaks. Then you'll have like "freak teflon" on forever.
I don't know what used to attract them to me (probably because I did not yet know how to be direct and confrontational in a dignified way). I also used to allow them in my life, try to be nice to them, because I thought I had to - as with your ex partner.
But these days freaks find that approaching me is like approaching a wolverine, or a big soft tiger. Looking oh-so-pettable until they get sliced into pork chops like on a bugs bunny cartoon. I think it is that I am more willing to tell them outright that they're making me uncomfortable and are unwelcome in my space. They don't like that, and they grumble off and make snotty comments to their snotty friends in dark corners of the room. Whaaaah.
This is just one guy, coming at you out of a demographic which (if I had to guess) has a number of people living non-traditional, non-conformist lifestyles. It doesn't make you a magnet. And anyway: how do you think he would've reacted if you'd gotten right up into his grill and asked you to stay away from you?
Worth practicing your own way of deflecting and then detaching from freaks. Then you'll have like "freak teflon" on forever.
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great analysis GL
I think the problem was that I was very clear I didn't like him or want him around and he saw that as a challenge. I was not inviting or suffering of that fool. Ordinarily, a sane person would have scurried off. But he wanted to fight with me. Kept being confrontational.
Today there were about 5,000 people estimated that came through this event. I was with the organizers, speaking at the rally, manning a booth and handed out about 4 thousand papers. Unreal, really. But he was sort of sharking around in the background a few times (like the business partner that tried to stare me down but I intentionally turned my face away from him) but today he understood that he doesn't want to mess with me. Helped having about 5 giant guys all muscly and tough from Detroit by my side much of the time. come on dirtbag. You want to fight with me? I"m Transformyself!
No, I am exhausted and a bit sad that I need to get in my bed and sleep instead of going to the after parties. But there's more work to do tomorrow and the kids are gone so I better sleep.
Spoke to about 2500 people today. TV cameras on me. I was pretty scared at first but it was fine. My 25 year old son and his girlfriend were there with me for support and they loved it.
It feels great to be recognized for my work.
Please, please understand that you can create the type of life you love if you take all that energy previously used focus on the A and shine it instead onto yourself. Make today be the day you implement a plan to become the woman or man you admire the most. Work at it. Don't stop.
You'll be amazed at how different, how fulfilling and how happy you can be. YOu don't have to speak in front of crowds, you can do what you were sent here to do and that's different for everyone.
love , transform
And anyway: how do you think he would've reacted if you'd gotten right up into his grill and asked you to stay away from you?
Today there were about 5,000 people estimated that came through this event. I was with the organizers, speaking at the rally, manning a booth and handed out about 4 thousand papers. Unreal, really. But he was sort of sharking around in the background a few times (like the business partner that tried to stare me down but I intentionally turned my face away from him) but today he understood that he doesn't want to mess with me. Helped having about 5 giant guys all muscly and tough from Detroit by my side much of the time. come on dirtbag. You want to fight with me? I"m Transformyself!
No, I am exhausted and a bit sad that I need to get in my bed and sleep instead of going to the after parties. But there's more work to do tomorrow and the kids are gone so I better sleep.
Spoke to about 2500 people today. TV cameras on me. I was pretty scared at first but it was fine. My 25 year old son and his girlfriend were there with me for support and they loved it.
It feels great to be recognized for my work.
Please, please understand that you can create the type of life you love if you take all that energy previously used focus on the A and shine it instead onto yourself. Make today be the day you implement a plan to become the woman or man you admire the most. Work at it. Don't stop.
You'll be amazed at how different, how fulfilling and how happy you can be. YOu don't have to speak in front of crowds, you can do what you were sent here to do and that's different for everyone.
love , transform
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Spoke to about 2500 people today. TV cameras on me. I was pretty scared at first but it was fine. My 25 year old son and his girlfriend were there with me for support and they loved it.
and you came back here to bring the message of work for your dreams.
how cool is that? excellent.
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Thanks Guys.
I don't know which stations were there but if you catch any footage of the rally could you send me the station name?
i know some of those fools with camera's will be uploading it to the internet. And the videographer was there documenting the entire thing, so that will be up eventually as well.
I'm glad it's over. I feel compitent and sure of the work I still have to do yet not discouaged. It's just work.
I don't know which stations were there but if you catch any footage of the rally could you send me the station name?
i know some of those fools with camera's will be uploading it to the internet. And the videographer was there documenting the entire thing, so that will be up eventually as well.
I'm glad it's over. I feel compitent and sure of the work I still have to do yet not discouaged. It's just work.
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transform you have no IDEA how much I wish I could be there with you.
I'm a bully's worst nightmare in that particular arena.
That's wild you wrote that cuz i went to another thread thinking
how much I wish I could just be standing beside you when he started.
A size eleven three inch stiletto boot in the instep
placed by a 200# menopausal woman
and I guarantee you without any doubt
he'd forget
all about what he was going to say.
I'm a bully's worst nightmare in that particular arena.
That's wild you wrote that cuz i went to another thread thinking
how much I wish I could just be standing beside you when he started.
A size eleven three inch stiletto boot in the instep
placed by a 200# menopausal woman
and I guarantee you without any doubt
he'd forget
all about what he was going to say.
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BUT - enough redneck fantasy ....
I really did have a point for you.
When *I* realized I was a 'jerk magnet' as I used to call it at the bar...
I realized ,
a year into recovery
that I was going to have to embark on
this inner journey
of repair
because I knew *I* was the one
who kept hooking up
with charming mr. wrong.
I had to piece by piece find out
where I was going wrong
and try my best to fix that.
Because I had to change that
or nothing in my life
would ever be any different.
I'm excited for you to be in the same place
and using what your'e learning
not only in a romantic relationship
but in 'all your affairs'.
Congratulations to you for that.
I really did have a point for you.
When *I* realized I was a 'jerk magnet' as I used to call it at the bar...
I realized ,
a year into recovery
that I was going to have to embark on
this inner journey
of repair
because I knew *I* was the one
who kept hooking up
with charming mr. wrong.
I had to piece by piece find out
where I was going wrong
and try my best to fix that.
Because I had to change that
or nothing in my life
would ever be any different.
I'm excited for you to be in the same place
and using what your'e learning
not only in a romantic relationship
but in 'all your affairs'.
Congratulations to you for that.
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Come on dirtbags. You want to fight with me? I"m Transformyself!
Way to go, think I just found "you" in my animal snaps.
Should send those nutter brats out of your way, in a hurry.
Gopd bless
Come on dirtbags. You want to fight with me? I"m Transformyself!
Way to go, think I just found "you" in my animal snaps.
Should send those nutter brats out of your way, in a hurry.
Gopd bless
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As usual, I LOVE your graphics jadmack, this one especially as I am a LEO.
My brain is so fried, I feel swollen and emotional today but am thrilled to have this over with. The news reported 5,000 attended the rally and fair after, haven't found footage of the rally yet but am very nervous to see what I looked like up there.
I was the only woman that spoke. Among the hundreds of folks who saught me out yesterday after the rally, the ones that impacted me the most were the 6 or 7 young girls who said they loved my speach and wanted to know more about drug policy reform. My son was the one who pointed that out, that I was the only woman up there.
My brain is so fried, I feel swollen and emotional today but am thrilled to have this over with. The news reported 5,000 attended the rally and fair after, haven't found footage of the rally yet but am very nervous to see what I looked like up there.
I was the only woman that spoke. Among the hundreds of folks who saught me out yesterday after the rally, the ones that impacted me the most were the 6 or 7 young girls who said they loved my speach and wanted to know more about drug policy reform. My son was the one who pointed that out, that I was the only woman up there.
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