HopelessWife

I've posted about my husband's behavior over the last few days, and how he's been saying all of these hateful things about me and my past and wanting a divorce. He went to the doctor a couple of days ago and was given anti-anxiety pills, an anti-depressant, and Ambien. He called last night and said he's sorry about everything he's said, and that his reaction to my past was immature, and that he's an idiot. I told him to go to sleep and I'd speak to him today.

I just woke up to about 20 e-mails from him from throughout the night. In the first two he says he loves me, then the next one he asks "Are you the one who put the hit out on me? They missed!"....then he emailed several more times asking if I know who's put a hit out on him, and am I involved? I can't reach him now, and I'm worried. I'm in LA and he's in San Francisco. He has a week off from work and I'm worried about what may happen. Should I call the police and ask them to do a welfare check? These paranoid ramblings are not a good sign. He will probably hate me for calling the police but I'm very worried. I don't know if they would put him on a 72-hour hold or what. He does have medical insurance, so that is not a concern. Don't know what to do

transformyself

Crap. I would do that, . He's clearly unstable. I'd also save the emails, get to a meeting and file a restraining order. I hope you go no contact with him. You can't save him! You can't help him, but he may take you down with the ship.

Just a codie plea.

Ceres

If it was me, and there was nobody else to call in San Fran, and I did not hear back from him by the end of today - I'd leave a final message for him that I will call the authorities if I do not hear from you by 6:00pm.

Then, I'd call. This is just me.

Ceres

Hmm, I also wouldn't stay home tonite.

CAPTAINZING2000

Is there a chance he's involved in criminal activity besides any possible drug use?
I know drug dealers have been known to do terrible things for their money. I lost 2 friends that way.

ElegantlyWasted

The guy needs help. First; take care of yourself, if you feel there is a possibility of physical danger or continued harrasment take action. My suggestion is to tell him his behavior is wrong and that you will get a restraining order if he actions continue. Assualt charges can be filed as well (assault is your perception of imminent physical harm). Keep concrete boundaries and hopefully it will help him bottom. As much as I dislike Police involvement, it may be necessary for your own safety. Ask a professional as well, it may be as simple as ignoring him.

cmc

No they are not a good sign and I'm worried about you.
These 'signs' are like a fire alarm going off. When an actual fire alarm goes off...I get out of the building. I don't ask for details or question whether it's really dangerous or not.



When my son was active in his addiciton I often ignored the warning signals. I was fortunate to finally see how it was me who was putting myself in danger- not my son.

Have you taken any measures yet to protect yourself? It's going to be up to you just how much you are going to allow his behavior to affect you. There is no making sense with a crazy person.

Remember that the only person you can control or protect from this is yourself. Please get a restraining order.....now.

Duped

I second what cmc said. This has gone beyond mere quacking and into the arena of downright scary. Don't worry about his well being - worry about your own in this situation.

Jadmack25

Time to take action to safeguard yourself is now.

Yes I would call police, and ask for their take on this, and also make sure that either I was staying elsewhere, or had someone with me able to protect me, until he was found and assessed.

If your AH doesn't like having police or other authorities involved, that's tough. He is the one whose irrational behavior and emails made it necessary for you to do that.

Do NOT take any chances with him as he is very unstable and unpredictable.

God bless

Still Waters

Ambien is well known for causing extremely bizarre behavior in "normal" people. It could very well be that the crazy emails were sent under the influence of it. If so, he likely won't remember any of it.

suki44883

My advice: Call the police and let them know what has happened. They can make the decision whether or not to pay him a visit. Next, block his calls and texts. Take whatever steps you need to in order to be safe. This crap has been going on for a long time and as long as you continue to engage with him, you are going to be torn up and scared and miserable. Leave him to his own devices and YOU take care of YOU.

CAPTAINZING2000

specially with alcohol

wanting

I think you need to contact a domestic violence center. These issues are beyond "Friends & Family of Alcoholics." Sometimes advice that we give in codependency situations is not proper when there's domestic abuse involved. Simply blocking his calls could cause him to escalate in violence. You need to talk to someone who has experience with abuse and let them help you to get yourself safe.

Still Waters

You know, I didn't even think of that. I'm slipping.

barb dwyer

I have to agree with wanting.
I mean- we have to strive to ERR on the side of caution
in matters of thisnature inSoberRecovery.

MY EXPERIENCE STRENGTH and HOP is:
haveing been the focus of targeted violence
including the "organized" kind ....

stop talking to us and call the authorities NOW.
pack something.
spend the night in a hotel... with a friend he doesn't know -
call your al anon group if you have to ...

this could be very serious, hon.

I don't want to watch your story on 48 hours.

If I'm overreacting - SO BE IT.

There's the ghosts of many women
who'd tell you
they wished someone had
overreacted when they were in trouble.

This is trouble.

You're not dealing with a human being.
Not with all these drugs and chemicals.

If it's not rational
it's not safe.

Please.

Please print out everything -
even posts from here if it'll help.
Take them to the authorities NOW.
Today. Before the Ellen show goes off.

He could be on the way there right now, hon.

Please do this.

barb dwyer

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...w-what-do.html

In case anyne thinks I'm over reacting and needlessly alarming her.

I hate being right all the time.

barb dwyer

*bump*

asking y'all to keep this in mind , and our new friend wifeof in our prayers and thoughts today until we hear if she's okay.

thanks!!

coffeedrinker

the "ramblings" are most certainly drug-induced state related. so no way can you make sense of them.

please update us

wanting

Hoping for an update and praying for your safety.

barb dwyer

dropping over (actually first thng )
to see if there's any news. .... hmmm.

*prayers for the best*