mariemarie

This (from Transformyself) is just so wise, it bears repeating:

"The best advice might be to do the necessary steps, then release attachment to the outcome. Sort of like let go and let god."

I've been troubled by the need to find the facts, because it feels co-dependent. It helped me to think of the process in these terms.

barb dwyer

hi marie -

We've got a saying something about ...
no matter how long you're sober the disease
is in the backyard doing pushups.
And always looking for a way back in.

And another thing that I don't know was a saying before *I* got there but -

just because someone is in recovery doesn't mean they're safe.

That goes for male and female.

And finally -

My advice is always the path of honesty.
But first you have to get in line what YOU think.
And get anger out of the way
to talk about it.

Eight years is a long time.
You mentioned three eyars of stepped up meetings
bla bla bla
Five years is a critical time for Alcoholics
because they tend to think the're 'healed'.

We're NEVER healed.
We're never 'well'.
We're only 'better'.
If we're dilligent.
And just a bit...
flat out lucky.

Leave the sponsor out of it.

So -
Sleep onnit.
Plan.
Visit this website they're talking about.
Plan some more.
Get anger/ other kneejerk RE-actions out of the way
or in check..

so you can 'ACT'.
Not "RE-act."

But for me it'd be straight up eyeball to eyeball wtf is this, honey>?

Honesty.
Is always the second most powerful sword.
The first being humor.

Taking5

You must have missed the part about him being sober for 8 years?

coffeedrinker

ditto on leaving his sponsor out of this.

and transformie, way to go; great, terrific post.