How could I think he could be good to me...
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How could I think he could be good to me...
When he can't even be good to himself? He is scarred, unhealthy, and miserable because he is mean to himself. He's so horrible to himself. He treats himself like total crap. You just have to look at him once to know how mean he is to himself.
Why would I have ever thought this man would be nice to me? Would care about me? Would treat me with kindness, and patience, and respect? He can't even do those things for himself.
Why did it take me so long to get that? Ugh.
I'm having an anger free day today. I think I'm almost out of the woods. Hope everyone is doing well and staying strong! STAY STRONG!!!
Why would I have ever thought this man would be nice to me? Would care about me? Would treat me with kindness, and patience, and respect? He can't even do those things for himself.
Why did it take me so long to get that? Ugh.
I'm having an anger free day today. I think I'm almost out of the woods. Hope everyone is doing well and staying strong! STAY STRONG!!!
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Originally Posted by KeepPedaling 
Why did it take me so long to get that? Ugh.
I think the 'pathetic' factor is one of the things that subconsciously draws us to them. Me, anyway. Pretty sure it has to do with the rescuing/need-to-be-needed/feel superior dynamic. Yuck!
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I hear you.
You sound like you're at the point where the head knowledge and heart knowledge almost match.
In the rooms there's an expression of going to the hardware store for bread.
I have tried to get my value from another too, but what I need I need to give myself.
I need to keep saying it until I believe it too.
(((((hugs)))))
You're not alone!
You sound like you're at the point where the head knowledge and heart knowledge almost match.
In the rooms there's an expression of going to the hardware store for bread.
I have tried to get my value from another too, but what I need I need to give myself.
I need to keep saying it until I believe it too.
(((((hugs)))))
You're not alone!
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No way did I get in contact with him Learn! No WAY! My bike and I have been putting in some miles the last few weeks.
I'm actually in a great mood today. Maybe that's why I'm feeling more analytical and less pissedoff-ical.
I got a bunch of things done this week. Really looking forward to my upcoming mini-vacation in a week and a half. YES!
I'm actually in a great mood today. Maybe that's why I'm feeling more analytical and less pissedoff-ical.
I got a bunch of things done this week. Really looking forward to my upcoming mini-vacation in a week and a half. YES!
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distance is what it sounds like to me.
When we get that distance
and are no longer mired up in all the drama
we can appreciate how ridiculous the whole thing was.
Kinda like when we notice there's
something stuck on our sleeve
and we go
"how long has that been like that?"
Not the best analogy
but I'm sticking with it.
When we get that distance
and are no longer mired up in all the drama
we can appreciate how ridiculous the whole thing was.
Kinda like when we notice there's
something stuck on our sleeve
and we go
"how long has that been like that?"
Not the best analogy
but I'm sticking with it.
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Originally Posted by LaTeeDa
I think the 'pathetic' factor is one of the things that subconsciously draws us to them. Me, anyway. Pretty sure it has to do with the rescuing/need-to-be-needed/feel superior dynamic. Yuck!
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Happy endings can be so different than what we first thought they were going to be. Well done!!!!!The result of the hard work of recovery is getting to be your "happy ending" with this man. Took me 20 years of marriage and two years of separation to start to "get it".
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No way did I get in contact with him Learn! No WAY! My bike and I have been putting in some miles the last few weeks. I'm actually in a great mood today. Maybe that's why I'm feeling more analytical and less pissedoff-ical. I got a bunch of things done this week. Really looking forward to my upcoming mini-vacation in a week and a half. YES!
WAY TO GO! Feels great to have all that sickness and confusion and drama BEHIND you doesn't it? YAY KeepPedaling.
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