luckyliz22

Hi all. My hubby has been in rehab for 12 days so far for alcohol and pills. He is doing very well. I just came home from a visit with him only to be informed a friend of his died this afternoon from cardiac arrest from an overdose. I do not know what to do!! I called his counselor and left a message for him to call me back to see how to handle this. Has anyone had this experience? I dont know if it is a good idea to tell him so early in his recovery or not. On the other hand maybe while he is there in rehab with counselors it may be the best time. I will wait for advice from his counselor but in the meantime if anyone has had any experience with this I would love to hear from you. Thanks and God Bless!

PHIZ007

Oh...I am so sorry to hear. Thats is sad and a difficult situation for you. I don't have any direct experience of the same but just wanted to offer you my thoughts and support and say I would definatly see what the counselor suggests (as you have said) as they have plenty experience. Hopefully there will be more people along shortly that are better equipped to advise you. Take Care Phiz

luckyliz22

Thank hon

RollTide

When my husband was in rehab I had to deliver the message that one of the old timers from his AA group had commited suicide. I thought it was best to tell him while he was in an environment where he had access to counselors and no access to alcohol.

Hope this helps.

tjp613

Yes, i agree that you should tell him while he has such good support and no access to drugs.

barb dwyer

YES. THe counselor is the one in charge now, not you.

I think there's an opportunity here, for the both of you.
And I mean that in a way of honoring the friend who passed.
It could be an "ultimate gift" going on.

I think it's best that he's in rehab right now.
Not only because he's prevented from self-destructing over this,
but YOU are also being prevented from any codependent behavior at the same time.

You have to cope your way
and he has to cope his.
Literally to live... he must learn.

I've lost a LOT of friends and associates to alcoholism.
Death becomes our constant companion in the final stages of our drinking,
and it doesn't matter WHO you are.

Let them handle his side of this.

Good job!

luckyliz22

Thank you all very much for responding. Yes, I really think it is best he learns about this in rehab where there are people in place to help. His counselor will be back in tomorrow, I called after his hours so I guess tomorrow will be the day to deal with it all. Again I thank you for taking the time to respond. God Bless!