Co-parenting with an alcoholic
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Co-parenting with an alcoholic
I haven't started a thread in a while, but I have a need to vent.
I've been separated from my A for over four years. Divorced for three. As far as I know, he's not drinking, but alcoholic behavior remains. Our kids are 17 and 13. Less than a year after the divorce was final, he moved to Alaska. This was the same man who insisted on a clause in our divorce settlement that I would not move more than 30 miles away with his kids. Then he up and moves 3000 miles away. Whatever.......
That was a little over a year ago. Now, he has this gig where he works for 6 weeks or so, then gets 4-5 weeks off. So he decided to rent a house here so he could see more of his kids. He rented a house 3 blocks from mine! Okay, whatever. Makes it easy for the kids to visit him. But, it's a one-bedroom, so they can't stay over, they just come home after they see him.
Now, he's planning to take some class which will get him a better position, so he's going to St. Louis next week, before going back to Alaska. So, this is the only weekend he will be in town till probably April. So, I ask if he will take the kids so I can go out of town for the weekend. Guess what? He's busy! Arrrrrggggghhhhhhh!
I was a single parent when I was married to him, when he is in Alaska, and when he is three blocks away! I guess I forgot that for a minute. At least now I only have two children instead of three! (the one I divorced, lol.)
For those of you considering having children with an alcoholic, my advice is DON'T!
L
I've been separated from my A for over four years. Divorced for three. As far as I know, he's not drinking, but alcoholic behavior remains. Our kids are 17 and 13. Less than a year after the divorce was final, he moved to Alaska. This was the same man who insisted on a clause in our divorce settlement that I would not move more than 30 miles away with his kids. Then he up and moves 3000 miles away. Whatever.......
That was a little over a year ago. Now, he has this gig where he works for 6 weeks or so, then gets 4-5 weeks off. So he decided to rent a house here so he could see more of his kids. He rented a house 3 blocks from mine! Okay, whatever. Makes it easy for the kids to visit him. But, it's a one-bedroom, so they can't stay over, they just come home after they see him.
Now, he's planning to take some class which will get him a better position, so he's going to St. Louis next week, before going back to Alaska. So, this is the only weekend he will be in town till probably April. So, I ask if he will take the kids so I can go out of town for the weekend. Guess what? He's busy! Arrrrrggggghhhhhhh!
I was a single parent when I was married to him, when he is in Alaska, and when he is three blocks away! I guess I forgot that for a minute. At least now I only have two children instead of three! (the one I divorced, lol.)
For those of you considering having children with an alcoholic, my advice is DON'T!
L
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Ahhh, everything you've come to expect from Mr. Responsibility 
Sorry, LTD. But glad you've just got the two now, too.
(okay, I've got Friday Brain, because the artificial insemination comment just made me cough up my coffee)(coughee)
Sorry, LTD. But glad you've just got the two now, too.
(okay, I've got Friday Brain, because the artificial insemination comment just made me cough up my coffee)(coughee)
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I feel ya, LTD. And it's not even the alcohol. It's the selfishness and total inability for them to even consider that they are responsible for their children just as much as you are. XAH is kind of pulling through lately, but his selfish thinking is still very evident most of the time.
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