I don't care any more!
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I don't care any more!
The other day I came to a wonderful realization. I really don't care any more about my ex BF (sober 3 years but still a jerk).
I was giving him a ride in my car to a music event, just as I would an ordinary friend. He started talking crazy stuff, just awful put downs, racial slurs and angry words about the other drivers (it was a raging blizzard and they were all driving too slow according to him). It used to drive me nuts when he would talk like that and I would get very angry. But this time I just said to myself "Ignore it. It doesn't matter any more" and I DID! I didn't respond, I just let him rant.
He can just go off by himself and be stupid it he wants to. I NO LONGER CARE!!
Wow, it took me a long time to get out of the clutches of what he calls love.
Spinner
P.S. I finally got myself an avatar - my cat Sandy
I was giving him a ride in my car to a music event, just as I would an ordinary friend. He started talking crazy stuff, just awful put downs, racial slurs and angry words about the other drivers (it was a raging blizzard and they were all driving too slow according to him). It used to drive me nuts when he would talk like that and I would get very angry. But this time I just said to myself "Ignore it. It doesn't matter any more" and I DID! I didn't respond, I just let him rant.
He can just go off by himself and be stupid it he wants to. I NO LONGER CARE!!
Wow, it took me a long time to get out of the clutches of what he calls love.
Spinner
P.S. I finally got myself an avatar - my cat Sandy
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Sounds like GOOD stuff!
Would you consider not hanging out with him, considering he's a mean, racist, angry jerk (in your words)? That would put the emotional freedom together with not needing to hear his crap!
w
Would you consider not hanging out with him, considering he's a mean, racist, angry jerk (in your words)? That would put the emotional freedom together with not needing to hear his crap!
w
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The only "jerk" I want to be involved with is with weights, the other type...NO way.
Now you don't care care, the next move is to move him out of your life completely, then you will be FREE.
God bless
Now you don't care care, the next move is to move him out of your life completely, then you will be FREE.
God bless
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Once I realized he adds nothing to my life, I don't need him in it.
Brilliant revelation!!
--Makes me stop and wonder what my XABF added to my life that made me think I needed him for so long??....??? Ok, still don't have an answer to that one.
Glad you posted, Spinner!
Alice
Brilliant revelation!!
--Makes me stop and wonder what my XABF added to my life that made me think I needed him for so long??....??? Ok, still don't have an answer to that one.
Glad you posted, Spinner!
Alice
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and that is a wonderful realisation Spinner.....all our journeys are at different paces but that is one realisation! WOW for you!....you just keep on putting one foot infront of the other day by day........Great Post! Uplifting and real! Take Care Phiz 
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Yeah, he's a sweetie. Big blue eyes and very cuddly. And he listens when I tell him my problems and has lots of good advice (mew mew mew). He always senses when I'm feeling bad and stays with me.
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Jad, where do you get these pics. I love 'em.
I need to check my member status with the D.C.C. as well. I've been lending out space in my head to folks who've never paid a dime in rent. Gotta follow Spinner's lead
Alice
I need to check my member status with the D.C.C. as well. I've been lending out space in my head to folks who've never paid a dime in rent. Gotta follow Spinner's lead
Alice
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Congratulations, it seems like you had to make that realization on your own. I hope that you have the strength to keep him out of your life if he is so destructive, because he will probably reach out to you kindly to try to win you back... It is your choice as to what you do if that happens. I hope you think about yourself first!
Best to you and your cat!
Best to you and your cat!
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He came over on Saturday with food to make lunch. I told him "No thank you". He was hurt and I felt bad but stuck to my guns and he went away. I had a tuna sandwich and no messy kitchen afterwards (he is a messy cook).
It was hard not to care.
It was hard not to care.
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