AH just diagnosed with cancer
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Oh Velma, I'm sorry to read this news. I saw the thread come up and thought I would read an update on how you were coping with the treatment of your husband's cancer and I was stunned to read of his passing.
I agree with the other replies and heartfully encourage you to seek out face to face support and go slowly in your grief process doing what is healthy for you.
The house must feel like an empty reminder of all that you have been through. I agree with filling it with comfort and companionship as much as often as you can with a pet, a roommate, friends, family etc. It helped me to hold onto my pets and family when I left XABF and missed having a man around the house, even if he was drunk most of the time.
Take care of you!
Hugs,
Alice
I agree with the other replies and heartfully encourage you to seek out face to face support and go slowly in your grief process doing what is healthy for you.
The house must feel like an empty reminder of all that you have been through. I agree with filling it with comfort and companionship as much as often as you can with a pet, a roommate, friends, family etc. It helped me to hold onto my pets and family when I left XABF and missed having a man around the house, even if he was drunk most of the time.
Take care of you!
Hugs,
Alice
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Velma...I just today found your original post and scrolled down to find the terrible news about your husband's passing.
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
Sending you as many cyber hugs as possible
I'm so sorry you have to go through this.
Sending you as many cyber hugs as possible
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MY husband's funeral service is today.
I had a conversation with him,as best as I could. I apologized for my shortcomings. And for not feeling loved, and taking it out on him. One of our mutual friends told me that Jeff called him while on a bender and spent most of the call telling him how much he loved me.
I wish I could have appreciated that when he was here.
I'm not doing well today. Please pray for me.
I had a conversation with him,as best as I could. I apologized for my shortcomings. And for not feeling loved, and taking it out on him. One of our mutual friends told me that Jeff called him while on a bender and spent most of the call telling him how much he loved me.
I wish I could have appreciated that when he was here.
I'm not doing well today. Please pray for me.
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I missed this thread, then today, upon seeing it pop up under "new" opened it to find your sad, sad day that is upon you.
Please know that many hearts are with you. No matter his shortcomings, of course he loved you, and that at least brings some comfort. It was his disease that turned him into the man that frustrated and saddened you. Peace be with you...
Please know that many hearts are with you. No matter his shortcomings, of course he loved you, and that at least brings some comfort. It was his disease that turned him into the man that frustrated and saddened you. Peace be with you...
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Velma,
Please accept my condolences.
How are you doing today?
Sending healing thoughts your way.
If I may recommend a book, "the grief club" by Melody Beattie was a good companion in many difficult days/nights. I hope you can get a copy, it is about dealing with all kinds of change.
Please accept my condolences.
How are you doing today?
Sending healing thoughts your way.
If I may recommend a book, "the grief club" by Melody Beattie was a good companion in many difficult days/nights. I hope you can get a copy, it is about dealing with all kinds of change.
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