transformyself

You're HUMAN, you're working hard and no one is perfect. All cliche, I know, but it's true!

I hope you chase that regret away, too. Don't let it overshadow your progress. What would that little dog on your profile picture do?

I bet he/she would:
nap (get enough sleep)
play (take time to have fun)
take walks (exercise) and
be the cutest thing on the face of the earth. Without trying!

TakingCharge999

Hi Miss!

Yesterday I watched a Woody Allen movie and someone said "Real change is very slow"


It's slow and it's a drag but it is CHANGE!! maybe we are sad/nostalgic sometimes again but that is better than being sad/nostalgic and in hell for years or decades and believing all their BS for crumbles of "affection".... this is temporary snapshot only, "just another passing show"

Hugs!!

MissFixit

Thanks for your support.

Marvin would nap, play, eat and sleep. You are right. He would take of business. I guess I should be more like my dog!

WontGoWithYou

I wish I knew what to do, because I am experiencing the *exact* same feelings.

I try to think of my Ex at their very worst. But that doesn't really make the feelings go away.

I changed my phone number, that definitely helped.

*hugs*

Vanessa

transformyself

His name is MARVIN?!? That's hilarious! I LOVE that! You're brilliant.

And, I hope you're feeling better. I was thinking about you today, about how hard it is when we think we're done grieving and it sneaks up on us again. For me, it's like Oh, you again. Ok. I know how to do this. How to be sad or scared or angry and let it go as soon as possible.

Helps to throw myself into self loving/self appreciating activities.

TakingCharge999

Lately I have applied the "housecleaning cure", making sure every single bit is superclean, and when throwing away the trash, old clothes etc, I think I'm throwing the bad feelings, resentments and wishful thinking away as well... works for me....

Miss I also remembered you yesterday, have you taken any sport? I was there in the middle of sweaty ppl dancing "Thriller" and thought you may benefit from similar lessons! being around energetic, enthusiastic, happy ppl has been great therapy for me..

MissFixit

Thanks.

I have been cleaning too. Hung more pictures today and went through boxes.

I run and walk. Don't do group sports.

MissFixit

Hi All,

I want to update you all about the ex A re-surfacing. Let me say that for those who wish their ex would contact them, it is not fun nor does it feel good. The reality is that he is drinking still and looking for a comfortable place to land (someone to use who was once nice to him).

This weekend I started getting calls again. Didn't answer any of them. Godmother started getting called too.

Two weeks ago I had lunch with a friend who is also friends with ex. We talked about our lives but as we were leaving I told him about the contact last month. He said that the trainwreck (ex and OW) was coming to a head. I didn't ask what that meant.

I am sticking with no contact and going about my business. I hate alcoholism.

TakingCharge999

Congrats for ignoring him Miss!! how are you going to celebrate being so strong and sticking your ground??

You felt bad because there was no "last talk"
I had the 'last talk' and it was WORSE.

I felt bad because it seems for XBF I never existed or exist.
You have him contacting you and its WORSE.



The fact is that THEIR ALCOHOLISM SUCKS. And there's nothing that could have changed anything or can change anything.

Its funny if you think how different our outlook is in just 1-2 years.


Honestly I don't think your ex or my ex have changed ANYTHING AT ALL.

The elephant is still in the room. And you and me have nothing to do with that anymore, Thank God