Bernadette

Deb, just wanted to add a ((((hug)))).

Cats - that was so eye-opening and wise thank you for posting that.

peace to all-
b

PHIZ007

sending you hugs too......at this terribly sad time. and may he now be at peace......and I wish some for you too.....Phiz

TakingCharge999

The Grief club by Melody beattie addresses many kinds of change. It includes a Master list of losses and several exercises to work through complex feelings... just a book recommendation...

I agree with transform, that person's words were so inappropiate, I would go no contact right away.

I hope you and yours find peace, and support each other during this difficult time (( hugs))

nodaybut2day

WizeDeb, I would simply like to add my voice to those who expressed admiration for how well you are dealing with this horrible situation, as well as to those who were outraged at what the coworker had the gall to whisper to you.

GiveLove

Deb, hoping you and your daughter are doing better. If there's anything we can do, just say the word.

Gold

Dont worry about the thoughts or actions of others. Focus on your needs and your daugthers.
Hugs to you.