My Husband took his own life Sat
God bless you both, as you struggle thru the emotions and grief of this loss. You only wanted healing for him, but he chose this way for himself, leaving you to mourn.
There is nothing you did which caused this, and altho you will be having those "what if" thoughts now, please try and put them where they belong...in the garbage bin.
He chose this end to his addiction, and that addiction is to blame...NOT YOU.
You are in my heart, mind and prayers.
God bless
There is nothing you did which caused this, and altho you will be having those "what if" thoughts now, please try and put them where they belong...in the garbage bin.
He chose this end to his addiction, and that addiction is to blame...NOT YOU.
You are in my heart, mind and prayers.
God bless
Prayers for you and all who loved him....
May he rest in peace,
The peace that eluded him in life.
And may you and your daughter find serenity in that.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
G*D be with you as you go through this grieving process,
And learn to live once more
in peace yourself.
Shalom!
May he rest in peace,
The peace that eluded him in life.
And may you and your daughter find serenity in that.
I am truly sorry for your loss.
G*D be with you as you go through this grieving process,
And learn to live once more
in peace yourself.
Shalom!
Oh Deb my heart goers out to you. I am so so sorry for your loss.....My thoughts and prayers are with you. My best friend took her own life in May 2007....we were very very close so I can relate to the pain and hurt and all the emotions you are going through. One thing I found very hard was that the rest of the world carried on as normal.........it totally sucks!......I found counselling wonderful......somewhere I could dump exactly how I felt when truly I felt no one else could possible understand! 2 and a half years on I am doing well....life is pretty good......I miss her each and every day and sometimes have a bad day about it......but its all part of the griveing process....I will never totally recover...Life changed forever that day BUT I have some really good memories now and thats what I try to focus on.
Please keep posting so we know how you are.....its a terrible thing to go through but as others have said it wasn't your fault my love and I wish for you and your daughter that the sun will shine again........in time......take one day at a time and look after yourself. Thinking of you Phiz
Please keep posting so we know how you are.....its a terrible thing to go through but as others have said it wasn't your fault my love and I wish for you and your daughter that the sun will shine again........in time......take one day at a time and look after yourself. Thinking of you Phiz
Dear, Sweet Deb and Deb's daughter -
My brother's son took his own life 10 years ago, so I have slight clue.
And what PHIZ said is so true... the world absolutely should stop to honor your husband at this time.
Hon, as others have said; we here on SR are HERE for you. We LOVE you. We TREASURE you.
HUGE HUGS!!!
Tigger
My brother's son took his own life 10 years ago, so I have slight clue.
And what PHIZ said is so true... the world absolutely should stop to honor your husband at this time.
Hon, as others have said; we here on SR are HERE for you. We LOVE you. We TREASURE you.
HUGE HUGS!!!
Tigger
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We have our first councling session this morning. Mixed emotions arent even the words for it. Im filled iwth all the sorrow, coulda woulda shoulda feelings. I have to be able to sort these feelings out in a safe way. I wake up every moring with a panic attack, cant stop shaking till I take a dam pill. This is my second tradgy. My mother was killed when I was 16. It has brought back emotions that I thought I was over with. Thank you for all the prayers and thoughts I will keep posting. The funeral is tomarrow
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I lost two people that were very close to me last year, I know what you mean. You're doing the right thing, keep doing it. Get support, get therapy, spend time with good freinds and try not to isolate and post often. Processing grief is a process and you can help your daughter by showing her it's OK to work through the process in our own way and time.
((Deb))
my thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and all the family!!
also hate that you had the horrid loss of your mom at such a young age too.
Please know that it is OK to take good care of you right now - by taking good care of yourself you are letting your daughter know - it's healthy and OK to survive and take good care of herself - that's a beautiful gift to give to her.
HUGS (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity) to both of you,
Rita
my thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and all the family!!
also hate that you had the horrid loss of your mom at such a young age too.
Please know that it is OK to take good care of you right now - by taking good care of yourself you are letting your daughter know - it's healthy and OK to survive and take good care of herself - that's a beautiful gift to give to her.
HUGS (hope, unity, gratitude and serenity) to both of you,
Rita
Deb -
I don't know you only from reading ur posts here. I admire you for you bravery. Suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do I pray he has found the peace he was looking for...You have been in my thoughts and prayers all day and will continue to be. You give me strength!! I pray your daughter and you find peace. Stay strong and know you both have alot of people here for you both
I don't know you only from reading ur posts here. I admire you for you bravery. Suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do I pray he has found the peace he was looking for...You have been in my thoughts and prayers all day and will continue to be. You give me strength!! I pray your daughter and you find peace. Stay strong and know you both have alot of people here for you both
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Awwww Deb....my heart is breaking for you tonight hunny. You are both in my prayers.
Remember that if God took you to it He will see you through it as well. I am glad to hear
that you went to the Dr's. Take it easy on yourself during this rough time okay/
Janitw
Remember that if God took you to it He will see you through it as well. I am glad to hear
that you went to the Dr's. Take it easy on yourself during this rough time okay/
Janitw
Oh My Goodness Deb. I do not know you at all but could not read without offer you cyber support. i have never lost anyone to suicide and have no idea the pain and struggle you must be going through.
Take care. I hope you are getting lots of love and support.
Take care. I hope you are getting lots of love and support.
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I am terribly sorry ..
I was just reading through some posts as I am a new member just as a few moments ago, and wanted to stop by to say how terribly sorry I am to hear this. I do not know you but want to let you know that I will be along many others here to support you.
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