work boundaries or am I just a b*tch It is very hard (at least for me) to "assert boundaries" at work and I can't tell if I was asserting boundaries or being a b*tch. A colleague asked me to take a late project today because she was going to be out for half the day the next day. (routinely we help each other with the follow-up responsibilities, so this late project would not have had any bearing on her half day). I was not pleased but then said I would do it. Ultimately she ended up taking the project with some huffing, puffing and deep sighs. I felt bad for not doing it, but on the other hand it was totally unfair for her to ask me to take the late project just because she didn't want to stay late. I don't think she would have asked anyone else - why does she think she can dump the late project on me? Now I feel like the bad guy and yet also angry. |
Originally Posted by gns
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I don't think she would have asked anyone else - why does she think she can dump the late project on me? Doesn't really matter either way. Good for you for standing up for yourself and not allowing her to dump last minute projects on you just so she wouldn't have to work late. Don't feel bad about saying 'no.' You are NOT responsible for her reaction to the fact that you stood up for yourself. |
Thank you, Dreamer. It is hard to not feel guilty and wonder if I am a "team player". P.S. I did offer to share the project with her, and offered her help for the follow-up work tomorrow and even asked if she had somewhere she needed to be tonight, in which case I would have taken the late project It does make me wonder - is it that we are "nice people" and "good -natured" or is it that people see us as having no backbone, and usable? |
Originally Posted by gns
(Post 2480094)
It is hard to not feel guilty and wonder if I am a "team player".
Originally Posted by gns
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P.S. I did offer to share the project with her, and offered her help for the follow-up work tomorrow and even asked if she had somewhere she needed to be tonight, in which case I would have taken the late project
Originally Posted by gns
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It does make me wonder - is it that we are "nice people" and "good -natured" or is it that people see us as having no backbone, and usable? |
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