Ship Jumpers Swimming To Shore
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Ship Jumpers Swimming To Shore
I'm starting this thread for everyone who is saving themselves, jumping ship (the ship of doom, false-hope, chaos, and suffering), and swimming to shore (the shore of peace, emotional health, and recovery).
This morning I explained to my xabf that I had to evacuate his life to save my own. This is day one.
Tonight, for me, I'm going to my work Christmas party. I'm going to wear my red dress, enjoy my dinner and the company of my wonderful coworkers. When I come home, I'm going to relax and NOT pick up the phone.
This morning I explained to my xabf that I had to evacuate his life to save my own. This is day one.
Tonight, for me, I'm going to my work Christmas party. I'm going to wear my red dress, enjoy my dinner and the company of my wonderful coworkers. When I come home, I'm going to relax and NOT pick up the phone.
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Can I join if I jumped the broken promises ship that was steered by my mom?
It's been about 2 weeks and although we're still strained I feel calmer and at peace with my decision.
Tonight I'm going to go to my group, spend my money on my kids favourite dinner, go home to a quiet night and not check my e-mail from her until I'm safe at work tomorrow.
It's been about 2 weeks and although we're still strained I feel calmer and at peace with my decision.
Tonight I'm going to go to my group, spend my money on my kids favourite dinner, go home to a quiet night and not check my e-mail from her until I'm safe at work tomorrow.
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I'm going to wear my red dress, enjoy my dinner and the company of my wonderful coworkers. When I come home, I'm going to relax and NOT pick up the phone.
Now that sounds like a plan!
Enjoy your peace and freedom!
-b.
Now that sounds like a plan!
Enjoy your peace and freedom!
-b.
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Originally Posted by KeepPedaling 
Yes! All ship jumpers are welcome (especially ones jumping from the Ship of Broken Promises).
Why is work email safer? (Just curious)
Why is work email safer? (Just curious)
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I had a great time tonight. 
Dinner was good. Got a few compliments on the dress. Had really funny people at my table. We talked and ate and time flew by!
Now I'm home. I lit up my Christmas tree, and I'm sipping tea and watching LOST.
Tomorrow is day two. "Just keep swimming" right? Swimming, swimming....
Dinner was good. Got a few compliments on the dress. Had really funny people at my table. We talked and ate and time flew by! Now I'm home. I lit up my Christmas tree, and I'm sipping tea and watching LOST.
Tomorrow is day two. "Just keep swimming" right? Swimming, swimming....
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Hello and greetings KeepPedaling and other members of the get away ship of false hope. This is K your official greeter. There IS life here, calmness, tranquility and peace are major daily events. I've been here for over a year when I jumped my ship and began my voyage. Come on over the journey is worth it.
Seeking Serenity
Join Date: Dec 2009
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Yes KP...keep swimming. Each day gets a little easier. Someone told me recently that there will come a time when I wouldn't remember even being married to my stbxah. After so many years married (going on 32) I couldn't imagine not remembering.
I was recently cleaning out my voice mail and ran across a message from my husband...yelling at me on the voice mail and cursing at me. I can not tell you how the shock of listening to him ran through my system. Every muscle in my body tensed and the pain between my shoulder blades (that I haven't had since I moved out) came right back. Little things like this are my affirmation that I've done the right thing by leaving.
As Kingston stated above...the journey is so worth it:-)
I was recently cleaning out my voice mail and ran across a message from my husband...yelling at me on the voice mail and cursing at me. I can not tell you how the shock of listening to him ran through my system. Every muscle in my body tensed and the pain between my shoulder blades (that I haven't had since I moved out) came right back. Little things like this are my affirmation that I've done the right thing by leaving.
As Kingston stated above...the journey is so worth it:-)
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KP...I was just imagining you, hot mama, with your sexy red dress, having a great time at your Christmas party. Awesome
Here's what your thread reminded me of this morning:
Just keep swimming....
Stella...I agree with you wholeheartedly...I remember hearing this tidbit of conversation somewhere:
"How can you leave? Don't you love me?"
"I love me more"
Here's what your thread reminded me of this morning:
Just keep swimming....
Stella...I agree with you wholeheartedly...I remember hearing this tidbit of conversation somewhere:
"How can you leave? Don't you love me?"
"I love me more"
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Join Date: May 2006
Location: Louisiana
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Hey my fellow ship jumpers!!
Have been on this wonderful island of Serenity, Joy, Peace and Safety - living Happy, Joyous and PINKFULLY FREE for over a year now and TRUST ME - PINK ACRES is wonderful!!!
Come on Dorie, Swim, backstroke, butterfly or dog paddle - but DON'T give up - It is so worth it -
YOU DESERVE IT
We all DESERVE IT
If you have read any of my old post - you know my "swim" wasn't an easy one but it was well worth it to leave that spiraling downward sinking unhealthy destructive ship (marriage) I called home for over 16 yrs.
Swim to the glow of freedom
HUGS,
Rita
Have been on this wonderful island of Serenity, Joy, Peace and Safety - living Happy, Joyous and PINKFULLY FREE for over a year now and TRUST ME - PINK ACRES is wonderful!!!
Come on Dorie, Swim, backstroke, butterfly or dog paddle - but DON'T give up - It is so worth it -
YOU DESERVE IT
We all DESERVE IT
If you have read any of my old post - you know my "swim" wasn't an easy one but it was well worth it to leave that spiraling downward sinking unhealthy destructive ship (marriage) I called home for over 16 yrs.
Swim to the glow of freedom
HUGS,
Rita
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“Follow the river and you will find the sea.” ~ French Proverb
“Follow the river and you will find the sea.” ~ French Proverb
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hey im jumping ship too im so tired of getting hurt and leaving my xabf house crying. Then the next day him tell me he didnt do or say anything wrong he was as good to me as he could be, that i was being a bitch.
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Kingston & Myawakening & ISurvived - I can't wait to get there
Noday - The cartoon is awesome! I love Dorie!
Bucyn - Sounds like you're on your way. How long have you been away from him?
Thumper - What is the exhausting part? Is he harassing you? Are you weakening?
Rita - Thanks for jumping in; the more company I have, the stronger I feel.
Chrisea - Perfect quotes! Those are going on my fridge too - right where his picture used to be.
Sassyslife - Please keep checking in here!
Jackrussellgirl - wooohoooooo!
Noday - The cartoon is awesome! I love Dorie!
Bucyn - Sounds like you're on your way. How long have you been away from him?
Thumper - What is the exhausting part? Is he harassing you? Are you weakening?
Rita - Thanks for jumping in; the more company I have, the stronger I feel.
Chrisea - Perfect quotes! Those are going on my fridge too - right where his picture used to be.
Sassyslife - Please keep checking in here!
Jackrussellgirl - wooohoooooo!
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Status: Day Two
What I did for me: Had a good day at work, went to the gym after work, made plans with a friend for Saturday and connected with another friend who I haven't talked to in awhile (I neglected a lot of my friends while dating my xabf).
Challenges: He texted me that he hates himself for hurting me and is sorry for ruining the holidays. He said he was sorry for drinking. I want to text him back and tell him not to hate himself, to just get better. But I don't even know if he's texting drunk or sober. Since I got his text (about an hour ago), I've been missing the sober him a lot and feel a little down. I'm going to make some tea and see if I can get into a TV show and fold my clothes. Ya..I'm missing him. Still super sad.
What I did for me: Had a good day at work, went to the gym after work, made plans with a friend for Saturday and connected with another friend who I haven't talked to in awhile (I neglected a lot of my friends while dating my xabf).
Challenges: He texted me that he hates himself for hurting me and is sorry for ruining the holidays. He said he was sorry for drinking. I want to text him back and tell him not to hate himself, to just get better. But I don't even know if he's texting drunk or sober. Since I got his text (about an hour ago), I've been missing the sober him a lot and feel a little down. I'm going to make some tea and see if I can get into a TV show and fold my clothes. Ya..I'm missing him. Still super sad.
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