LovetoLaugh

Just wanted to share something I did yesterday and I'm now regretting.

After 12 days no contact with XABF I was feeling that familiar urge to call. I immediately came here and read other peoples threads (it always helps me as I can relate to almost all of them) but apparently that wasn't enough for me to realize what a mistake it would be so I called my sister because she is always the voice of reason and she was busy and asked if she could call me back.

So I did it, got his voicemail and left a message saying give me a call, there are some things I want to speak to you about!

Literally 10 seconds after hanging up my sister calls and starts talking me down from the insanity. Much like everybody here she asks what I want out of it, reminds me of how long I've wanted to end this relationship. Also says its my choice and if I need to "see it again", she understands that to.

I didn't tell her I had already left the message, but as soon as I got off the phone with her, the feeling had passed and I started feeling angry again.

He hasn't returned the call, which is good because it fuels the anger but now I want to be prepared if he does call and asks what I wanted, to have something to say. Prescripted if you will so i don't fall into a trap!

Any suggestions, there are still a few of his things here so I could say I want him to have somebody pick them up. I just do not want to have a conversation that will lead to more arguing. I really set myself up!

So mad, I was so proud to be on day 12! Now that I'm lucid again I realize I don't want to speak to him, theres truly nothing left to say!

I need some tough love, bring it on!!!

Still Waters

Don't sweat it too much, just don't answer the phone if it's him and you're not ready to talk.

Live

two oops, does not make a whoopsie!
You don't need to ever answer a call from him.
You can change your mind about wanting to speak to him and steer accordingly.