Should I call his dr?
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Should I call his dr?
Ok, my AH has his psychiatrist appt tomorrow. He always downplays his drinking, sometimes he doesn't mention it at all. This is a new doc and my AH has never seen a psychiatrist b4. He's being treated mainly for depression & anxiety.
I'm thinking of calling the doc b4 my AH's appt. I did this a couple of months ago, and when AH got there, the doc confronted him about the drinking. This actually prompted my husband to stop for about 45 days. He was given meds to help him with withdrawal.
So, do I call? Is it enabling if I don't call? Or is it trying to control the situation if I do?
I think the doc should know, I don't see much point in going to this guy if he doesn't know all of the facts.
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I'm thinking of calling the doc b4 my AH's appt. I did this a couple of months ago, and when AH got there, the doc confronted him about the drinking. This actually prompted my husband to stop for about 45 days. He was given meds to help him with withdrawal.
So, do I call? Is it enabling if I don't call? Or is it trying to control the situation if I do?
I think the doc should know, I don't see much point in going to this guy if he doesn't know all of the facts.
Thanks
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I'm no veteran to all this stuff but it sounds like you're trying too hard to control the situation to me. Having said that, I did the same thing a few months back to my girlfriend. The doc could only listen when I called and not really give feedback, but I gathered that she had not been up front at all with her shrink and that it was all new news to the doctor. This appt began a chain of events that led my gf to a 30 day program. Seemed like it was the right thing to do in my eyes... but now I'm on the other side of the treatment and she's using again, leading me to wonder if maybe she felt pushed into rehab by this doc (and others, myself included) before she was really ready to get help. So maybe I shouldn't have done it. I don't know the answer... just wanted to share a similar experience. Maybe you should just remind your husband that the doc won't really be able to help him if he doesn't have the whole story and hope that he is forthcoming with everything. Seems like his responsibility- not yours. I dunno. Good luck whatever you decide to do.
their's no point in going to a psychiatrist if you aren't going to be as honest as you can be, but they are used to people presenting a "face", a "story" and you can't control his treatment.
I actually went with my AH to his Dr. appt, this was the appt. where he was going to discuss "relapse prevention". You gotta actually STOP before relapse comes in to play right?
Anyway - the doc laid it on the line - and that was the beginning of my AH's trip to rehab.
Which, in retrospect, he only did to shut me and his family up.
Anyway - the doc laid it on the line - and that was the beginning of my AH's trip to rehab.
Which, in retrospect, he only did to shut me and his family up.
I wouldnīt call the doctor, but step away from the situation.
I agree that your AHīs past history should be in the doctorīs notes.
Sometimes the best strategy is letting go.
Donīt misunderstand me, I know how hard this is.
Love and light,
I agree that your AHīs past history should be in the doctorīs notes.
Sometimes the best strategy is letting go.
Donīt misunderstand me, I know how hard this is.
Love and light,
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If doctor does not recognize alcoholism then treating the other problems is like shoveling sand against the tide. Meaningful treatment must remove the "alcohol"
If ah lies and denies then he is just waasting time with doctor.
If ah lies and denies then he is just waasting time with doctor.
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