velma929

Yup, moved to the guest room a couple years ago.

The smell, oh the smell, don't know how he sleeps through it. I nearly gag just going in to collect the laundry.

Last night was truly stunning though, for a totally unrelated reason.

Some news show or other was on, and was going to have a segment on the tennis player who had used drugs for a while. AH listened to the preview and said...

wait for it...

"I don't understand why anyone uses drugs."

forjg

velma what are they thinking sometimes???

heavenlyone

Oh velma.....so classic. It makes me laugh

Adragonfly

YOU guys ROCK!!! I'm new here...and I've got to say it feels so AWESOME to read that other people go through the same CRAP I do!!!!
I could Never tell my friends here that my Alcoholic husband is so Gross on weekends, that I can't stand to sleep with him! I've slept on the couch for the past year...but now on weekends he stays on the sofa too. We do have a worn out sofa in a tiny back bedroom...been sleeping there the past couple weekends now.
Honestly felt like I was the only one in the world fighting this demon.

Adragonfly

My alcoholic Husband called from work last night. He had fired a man for being "high".
he says to me....

"You should have seen him, he couldn't even walk straight! Bumping into the walls and chairs and things trying to walk to his center."

I (who never says anything to AH about his drinking problem) couldn't' help myself...
and i said..."Ummm hunny...I see that every weekend when you are plastered and trying to walk....it's not funny when you see it all the time!!!"

He didn't have a come back.

nothappy

When My AH had been sober fro awhile, I bought all kinds of new bedding and we went back to sleeping together. It didn't last. Slowly but surely, he's gorron worse. Slowly but surelt, I've moved back to the couch.

Still Waters

This reminds me of the "stealing the covers" discussion.

In the morning, the covers would be over on the floor on his side of the bed. He would swear I was the one stealing the covers and tossing them over there during the night.

Yeah.

whereisthisgoin

Sometimes it feels like we can't buy a sane moment.

Still Waters

Sure we can, when we remove the insane from our lives. Funny thing, now that I sleep alone - my covers remain right exactly where I left them when I fell asleep - on top of me.

Somehow, I'm sure it would STILL be my fault is his eyes however. LOL.

honoryourself

I prefer sleeping alone except in the winter when my feet are cold.. then I like to put them on my husband. I have slept with earplugs since I've met him. I used them while traveling and found they are invaluable to a good night's sleep. As long as I can get him to stop snoring for a minute while I fall asleep, he can't wake me up with snoring while I have the earplugs in.

redflaggers

I sleep in another bed every night we have not shared a bed in at least a year.I have even slept in my car to get away from his drunken episode because I had no where else to go.

Live

hi, redflaggers! Welcome to SR! Please feel right at home.
If you want to start a new post and introduce yourself, more people will be able to see you and get to meet you.
We are a warm and friendly bunch around here...and it always feels like a good home to me!

Yuk. I used to sleep in the car too. For the same reasons, I guess.
One was alcoholism. The other was abuse. I needed to get help with both.
They don't like that very much. But nothing ever pleases them anyway. And I just kept getting hurt worse and feeling more worthless.

I thought the meaness was alcohlism.
But the ladies here are just disgusted with the icky beds and such, I don't think most of them are doing it out of fear the way I was.
It took me a long time to know the difference. Shoot he was the first alcoholic I had ever know. How was I to know?

But the abuse gets worse just like the alcoholism does. And that is dangerous.